Forceme Silverspar's adventures in Second Life

Your tongues have not been cut

2012-02-19T10:40:00.001Z

It is not often that I come across something that makes me incensed with crossness. Incensed with such crossness that things become hazy and a path forward, or more appropriately, an effective path forward cannot be seen. I came across this issue in some depth about 18 months ago... I had to walk away, keeping my mouth shut. I had also come across it before that while at my first stint at university; fleeting glances and shrugging shoulders were the result of that encounter. Maybe my youth at the time, my selfish ways, my pre-having children days did not allow me to fully understand the scope of the issue.

I happen-chanced upon it again recently, the hazy crossness is still there but this time, I have decided to not walk away. It is time I spoke up about this issue and I have decided to make it my mantle to wear.

What is this issue that has so piqued my soul? It is the First Life issue of Female Genital Mutilation (FGM) practised by certain sects of the world community; predominantly of Muslim origin, predominately of African origin. Of course, what with the world as it is... Muslims and Africans have infiltrated most parts of the world through immigration, leisure, work and cultural forces.

What is FGM? I suggest ya Google it to get proper definitions of it; what I offer here is a layman's version. FGM is the removal of some or all of the female genitals typically performed by back-street women at a cost of $3 per mutilation on girls from the age of 2, using rusty knives on dirt floors.

I can't keep quiet about this any more. No more fleeting glances and shrugging shoulders. And I don't care if you count how many times I use the word IDIOT in this post.

Go on... YouTube it. Watch it. Listen to it. Have a look at these screaming little girls... make sure you listen to them fighting and screaming against what is being done do them by people they trust. Their mother. Their aunt. Their sister. Sitting on her as some greedy-idiot-woman pulls her clitoris out and slices it off, pulls on the girl's four labia and cuts them off, in cold blood. Go on, listen to these children scream in abject horror, pain and dismay. "And if you are a good girl, I will give you sweets.", the girl's mother tells her. Your clit for a packet of polos.

It is barbaric. Yes, that is right... this child mutilation is performed by barbarians. Barbaric idiots. I understand no one really knows where and how this practice all started, but apparently there is evidence Ancient Egyptians did it so it could go back thousands of years. Way before Islam was even a twinkle is someone's little eye. Ya know, hundreds of years ago, we, us Brits, used to drag people out for public executions, beheadings, hangings and all sorts. But we got civilised. Went took it private, we no longer made it a public spectacle and show, more so, a settling of a debt due paid. We continued killing people until 1964 when we became civilised a bit more. Some Western countries still execute people. They have a bit of catching up to do in terms of being civil to the human race.

However, I digress a bit, my point is... People grew and developed over the millennia from monkeys Out Of Africa and we populated the world, taking our new knowledge, ideas and culture as we followed the food trail across the continents. All the time... growing, learning, becoming better people, becoming civilised humans, no longer cave-dwelling club-swinging savages.

Except sadly... not everyone grew and developed at the same rate. We have a huge swathe of idiot who failed to grow civilised and for some unknown reason, the Muslims decided that was a good place to be.

NO! OK? No. It is not OK to mutilate little girls in such a vile and profound manner. What on earth can be going on in people's heads to think it is OK to be doing this? It's simple... they are savages and they are morons and they are barbaric idiots who fail to keep up with developing civility like the rest of the human race.

There are a number of reasons why these idiots think it is OK to do this...

It's their culture! Idiot savage culture!

It's their tradition! Idiot savage tradition!

It's their religion! Idiot religious Muslim leaders (MEN) who are so idiotic that they think they can insert bits into the Qur'an at will. And idiot Muslims who follow their idiot Muslim leaders without reading the text and making up their own mind. No where any where does it say in the Qur'an, that girl's genitals need to be sliced off and the girl sewn up closed.

It keeps our women safe from their sexual desires and with it we will not marry them because they will be whores! Idiot MEN who fear what would happen if, God forbid, the women were actually to feel sexual and actually have to work towards a female climax. The idiot MEN think it is OK for their little community to mutilate their daughters to keep them chaste and virginal.

It keeps the women clean! What idiot in Jesus' name would believe this? Yes, very clean to have little girls die through infections and loss of blood. Nothing like a sterile skeleton to nod happily at when ya looking for cleanliness. Of course, MEN can keep clean no problem.

It increases fertility and if you keep your clit, you will not grow tall and will remain stumpy! Well idiots to believe that. The world is flat, you know. I am sure having no bits and having scar tissue is the way forward to increase fertility, as for the rest...idiots. Yes... I do think they are. Brainwashed and not educated = idiots.

It makes sexual intercourse feel better for the MEN! Well ain't that sweet. Hey, yes, it's fine to mutilate your little girls, chance them dying in the process, who will grow up just so that the men will enjoy their nooky more. I mean... I bang my head at these people... how can they not think this is wrong?

I searched SL to see if there was anything in-world about this issue. Nada. Err well nada minus this brief mention...

The last three words on a group charter from a group about human rights called "Everyone Deserves Respect". Eww clearly, not everyone deserves respect. Some had respect and lost it so I don't believe the group title but I joined anyway. A group of 8 people. Mega-ewww, the group tag is "Worthy of Respect". (Imagine going around with that title above ya head? I wonder how long ya would last?) Looks like a dead group to me. But well done for at least having the only reference I can find of FGM in Second Life.

I have decided to make my own group... STOP Female Genital Mutilation FGM.

I have decided to sign up for a FL course on FGM.

I have decided to have a board up to advertise a campaign against FGM

I have decided to put the campaign's badge on my blog.

I have decided that once I have done this FL course, I will do monthly awareness classes in SL.

I will have fund-raising events for the charity FORWARD that works and campaigns against FGM.

My tongue was not sliced off, neither was yours. I said earlier..."Brainwashed and not educated = idiots" Time we got some education out on this disgraceful issue. It is time these little girls we left un-mutilated and it is time girls were allowed to grow up as whole women. Time the religious leaders, the village leaders, the mothers, aunts, sisters, ie the idiots, were educated with the truth and with civility. It is time, we worked to put a stop to this practise that goes against world-agreed Human Rights and start protecting our world-children against these idiots.

EDUCATE EMPOWER SUPPORT

Ouch!

2012-02-17T03:29:00.000Z

How funny is this? The Hooters group which I am a member of just gave out a freebie in a group notice. I don't normally partake in group notice freebies, but the comments in group chat that followed the notice made me curious.

What was so hilarious?

So I wore it, sod it, sod the risks of wearing weirdo things that arrive to you in non conventional ways, sometimes, ya just have to take risks or else our safety-bubble gets tired.

How perfect is this gift for me? A big red shoe up the bum with a flag telling the world, "MY ASS GOT BOOTED". I want another one too! "MY ASS WILL GET BOOTED". Maybe an amber boot? Oh then I need a third one! Perhaps a green boot? "MY ARSE MIGHT GET BOOTED"

I think that's a fabby idea!

Err... I shouldn't be surprised really

2012-02-14T03:25:00.002Z

I sometimes wonder if people are idiots just so they can be a star feature on my blog. Oh well, hate to disappoint. I had a LM for a new slave auction place; it was time I visited it.

I had to laugh at the entrance sign that told me Perfect Slave & Dom Trading wasn't about buyers and sellers but friends and family and then was greeted by a "Sales Manager" and a "Trader" as the staff of the place. Ain't that hilarious?

The place did no favours to my penchant for migraines. All those lines going here and there, made me feel a tad nauseous.

It started OK.

MasterJohn Boxen: hello
Forceme Silverspar: Hiya :)
MasterJohn Boxen: welcome
Bouncing Box: HI!
Forceme Silverspar: Thanks!
MasterJohn Boxen: anything i can help you with?
Forceme Silverspar: Just looking around, thank you tho.
MasterJohn Boxen: ok np
Forceme Silverspar: Nice shadows on these chairs.
Forceme Silverspar: Clever.
MasterJohn Boxen: thanks

Then in comes missy-boots.

winter Darkmatter: Greetings
Forceme Silverspar: Hiya
winter Darkmatter: May i help you all
Forceme Silverspar: Thank you but we are just looking around.
winter Darkmatter: this is not all of it
Forceme Silverspar: Oh?
winter Darkmatter: the place for classes is above use
Forceme Silverspar: What do ya teach here?

Ya know, show interest, like.

winter Darkmatter: bdsm
Forceme Silverspar: Oh that's a surprise, I thought it would be flower arranging and cake decorating :)

I really did laff at my own sarcasm, I am bad. I could almost see the feathers spitting out of her smiling face.

winter Darkmatter: smiles
winter Darkmatter: its not every auction house can get notice rights through bdsm events
Forceme Silverspar: Isn't it? You must be super special then.

I laughed again at her attempt of self-aggrandisement. Gawd, it wasn't til recently when I came across those INTJ photos when I realised how sarcastic I was. It is in my very nature to be sarcastic. Sarcasm is the lowest form of wit, I know. But it does amuse me.

winter Darkmatter: no
winter Darkmatter: i do Safe, Sane, & Consensual
winter Darkmatter: its a rule in the group

Oh dear me. Not a subject to mess with me about - SSC. I have looked at SSC from every conceivable angle and if she thinks she is gonna get away free by saying such a statement and me not commenting, then she was of course sorely mistaken.

Forceme Silverspar: You do Safe Sane Consensual? What does that mean?
winter Darkmatter: Safe: attempts should be made to identify and prevent risks to health.
winter Darkmatter: Sane: activities should be undertaken in a sane and sensible cast of mind.
winter Darkmatter: Consensual: all activities should involve the full informed consent of all parties involved.

Forceme Silverspar blinks a bit.

Forceme Silverspar: I am not sure how that relates to running an auction house.
winter Darkmatter: ohh really

Uh-oh.

Forceme Silverspar: Yeah?

Double Uh-oh.

winter Darkmatter: so you what unsafe play anf sub or slave to be hurt
Forceme Silverspar: I understand the consensual bit. Both buyer and sales need to be consenting.
Forceme Silverspar: I am not sure how you would determine what is safe for each individual.
Forceme Silverspar: I am not sure how qualified you are to determine the sanity of individuals either.

I do quite a lot of business with head-doctors, funny how even they say they can never be sure of a diagnosis in someone.

winter Darkmatter: yes but in sl every thing is done through feeling and the mind if your not sane and the person acne be hurt with feeling and thing can happen
winter Darkmatter: and not all play stays in sl

Oh dear Lord.

Forceme Silverspar: So you determine who is sane and who is not?
winter Darkmatter: its easy to tell

No really, it can't just be me that thinks a statement like this is not la-la in itself. She thinks it is easy to tell when someone is not sane?

winter Darkmatter: a girl that comes running in after beinng released by her owner after months or years and come in seconds yes i could not sale her cuzz she is not sane and driven by revenge
Forceme Silverspar: Wonderful.

'cuzz' - What class! Yes, so when I say things like 'Wonderful' that's me taking a stock-check on my pound of flesh. Is it worth stripping a bit more off her Force? No? OK? So just say 'Wonderful' and let things go.

winter Darkmatter: i have dealt with some girls like that

Forceme Silverspar chomps at the bit.

winter Darkmatter: and due to that houses closed

Forceme Silverspar can't resist. Sorry, ya know but don't spout out statements that ya not prepared to back up and explain.

Forceme Silverspar: Even tho she consents. So consent is a lower priority than sanity.
Forceme Silverspar: I think you must be in the wrong field if you are selling slaves in a virtual platform, when you could be out there in a medical capacity determining who is sane and who is not.

Oh dear, missy-boots didn't like that. Out comes the machine gun.

winter Darkmatter: you left bonanza
winter Darkmatter: look you teach bdsm
winter Darkmatter: you know howsome rules are i inform people

Eh?

winter Darkmatter: and someone with 6 alts is not sane in most peoples mind

Oh dear Lord, 95% of SL is insane then. The lady determines who is sane and who is not according to how many alts they have. Let her spout, Forceme.

winter Darkmatter: and you of all people should know diff views of bdsm
winter Darkmatter: i know your games
winter Darkmatter: i been around along time seen you cut down newbies to bdsm

I don't understand this statement of hers, but I do know I have donated 1000s of hours to teaching free BDSM classes for noobs and others. I don't know that I have ever 'cut down a noob to BDSM' whatever that means. I have always fought hard for the noobs, in all capacities.

winter Darkmatter: and sse you mack people looks at the ranch

Mack? Eh? Yes, please do feel free to paste up here any quotes about me err mackin' any people's looks at the Ranch. Open invite.

winter Darkmatter: so dont judge mt house or business i dont come to your business and tell you how to run it

Who was judging? I asked her about her ability to determine who was sane and who was not as she used this ability to explain why she was allowed to post in BDSM events group.

Forceme Silverspar: Sure I do. Doesn't mean I don't wanna understand yours. You say you "do SSC" that's great, but then ya the presence of mind to be able to explain what you say.

Then she goes into la-la land.

winter Darkmatter: if not for bull helping you you would not be where you are

Err... I was teaching very successfully for many many crowded classes at Bondage Playground before I even heard of Bull for a year, thanks very much.

winter Darkmatter: you started teaching at a auction house

No, I started teaching at Bondage Playground around November 2007 and went to Bonanza around October/November 2008. Read the blog, it's all there. Makes me laff yet again, how people spew out fiction like they are facts.

winter Darkmatter: i follow rules

Err, good!

winter Darkmatter: im a not switch

Err OK! I am not a porcupine or a battery or a barn!

winter Darkmatter ejected and banned you from this land.

Forceme Silverspar laughsssssssssssssssssssssss. I told Master I was banned from the place, he asked why, I replied that I didn't know why. It's true. I have no idea why I was banned. Why was I banned?

Me pink house

2012-02-12T23:46:00.001Z

As we have this massive plot and some spare prims, it came to my mind to fill it. I saw a house totally that wasn't me, but I just fell in love with it. Forceme Silverspar went back to the shop the next day to have a look at it to check she wasn't just in an odd mood. I want it! I want it!

Forceme Silverspar walked away again. Not sure why I liked it. I went to bed thinking about it, well thinking more of why I like it rather than the actual prims themsleves. A pink house? Oh pleeeeease! A pink house? Oh for goodness sake. I walked away day after day. My plan was to save up for it and if I still wanted it after I spent the time saving up for it then I must like it.

That was my plan. However, a friend of mine decided to buy it for me instead! YAY I am a lovin' it!

It's my own little Princess Palace. I dunno tho, there is something about pink that I am warming to. It's a bit like sticking two fingers up in a twisted kinda way to something, what? Not entirely sure what, but that's what I feel.

Pink is sensual. Pink is warm. Pink is feminine. Pink is calming. Pink is healthy.
Pink is pure. Pink is childish.

Trialing Vushi

2012-02-11T15:17:00.001Z

Last week, I saw advertised a class by some FL university folks for a presentation tool to aid teaching in SL. There are tons of these tools about but ya know, I have never come across one I like. Most are too complicated for what I want, don't take into account prims cost, or rez cost or some other lacking that they have in my eyes. Lack of flexibility being the main culprit.

During the class, I had a play with this Vushi presentation tool and thought this fitted my bill. One prim, easy to use in a class, easy to populate with textures in any order that I want so I thought I would give it a go.

So I have spent this week in creating the slides for this week's BDSM class, as we are starting with the first class again, it seemed a sensible time to start. I dunno if I am prepared to put the time - about 8 hours per class - and cost into creating these presentations for all my classes, but deffo think it's worth a try to see if I, and others, consider it a useful addition to the learning going on in class. It's like an investment, once they are done, they are done.

What the...

2012-02-10T08:23:00.000Z

...heck.

I thought would work on Ethics No2 and decided to resurrect an alt for its completion. Part of Ethics No2 means that I had to become a bar dancer at Lars.

Forceme Silverspar dances and emotes away like a good 'un.

What? Eh? Forceme Silverspar frowns hard. How come I got three times more money dancing on a bar top than I would ever get teaching and in half the time. Now, that just ain't right. is it? No wonder our society, SL and virtual, is skewed.

ARCH - Adult Resident Community Help

2012-02-06T14:30:00.001Z

Well these are hilariously good fun. I guess I just been lucky but those few noobs that turn up to these classes are the cherries on top of the noob-cake.

They only been running since last Wednesday but it's me new series of classes.

ARCH - Adult Resident Community Help

ARCH is around to help the noobs if they want help. I have a few ways up me sleevie. Can't say I am as yet, being over productive in getting them, but I am just warming up, settling in, and bedding down. I did set up a noob class schedule over at Adult Hub Central, but they didn't work very well at all for a number of reasons which I won't go into now but I will gladly if some Forceme's Law sufferer decides to poke me.

Now I am independent of doing from at Adult Hub Central, I am happy and free to brand and badge the classes as being mine. My work, my blood, my success. Yet another string to the "Forceme Silverspar's Classes" bow. YAY!

I only get 2 /3 /4 noobs to each class, but that's cool! From baby acorns, oak trees grow.

Forceme Silverspar finds her Laa-laa costume

2012-02-05T14:33:00.000Z

My time after leaving Adult Hub Central has been the best entertainment I have had in a very long time. Each day, brings me a new sneaky snigger.

I get a lot of pleasure and satisfaction to see each and every one of my ideas that I left at the hub being taken up and used to the hilt. Good to see my ideas are not wasted and I love to see people walk in my wake. I was brilliant with the ideas, and very crap dealing with idiots. I always have been, no change there then. I make idiots feel more idiotic and idiots don't much like that. It's a bad habit of mine. It does me no favours. But there ya go... can't go changing habit of a lifetime. Those that piss about me the loudest, are the biggest idiots. It's like a law of science. It is Forceme's Law.

I am very much looking forward to seeing what ideas of their own they can add to mine for the continued success of the hubs.

Free homes for the noobs! When I announced at the Continent meeting that Central Hub was offering free homes for noobs, my had-been ignored idea was brilliant and all five of the hubs needed to have free homes for the noobs! I resigned soon after my free homes for noobs announcement but I am oh-so-AMUSED to see what they did with my brilliant idea. (I have been promised 10% of rentals - if noobs stay in their free home, they will be charged - coz it was my idea so I look forward to that little bit of income [I outta sell my ideas more often rather than work my arse off for free for others ego growth])

My God, they have created Teletubbies land in Adult Hub Central for their free homes! How fun is that!

Forceme Silverspar starts singing!

Over the hills and far away,

Teletubbies come to play ....

Time for teletubbies,

time for teletubbies,

time for teletubbies....

Tinkywinky. "Tinkywinky!"

Dipsy. "Dipsy!"

Laalaa. "Laalaa!"

Po. "Po!"

Eww!

2012-02-05T02:01:00.000Z

Gawd, not often I freak myself out. Shocked the life outta me to turn around and see this. What the heck. I genuinely thought I caught some disease or summat.

Where's me face gone?!

The Rabbit Hole

2012-02-04T23:50:00.000Z

I am quite sure most of my readers will have heard of The Rabbit Hole, even if they have not explored it entirely. I have been aware of this site for a number of years and every time I visit it, I close it off and shake my head.

Maybe it is just the stand-offish stiff upper lip Brit in me, but I find the whole site very distasteful. Ya know, some things just need to be kept private, why people feel the need to go into such gross and detailed depth of what their kinks are and then go make it all public is so beyond me; it quite makes my stomach turn.

But that aside... If someone in SL was into random plays and random one off encounters, I could see why they would wanna get this info easily and quickly accessible to anyone who might bump into them for a session but...

Can someone explain to me why (Other than because they want to) they would go through this whole process... exposing their sexual perversions, their kinks, their most intimate details on how they get off, to the general public, then post their Rabbit Hole link in their SL profile so people can go see it and check up on their weirdnesses next to a statement on their SL profile that says "Do not IM me for sex or ownership." Worse still... why on the Rabbit Hole profile itself, they write "Do not IM me for sex or ownership, it is not something you will get a receptive response about, from me, or my owner." I see this situation a lot and I just don't understand it.

So why-oh-why, share and make public all that oh-so-private information about oneself when no use can be made of it or rather still, the kinky and sexy info is offered and issued to the reader with a warning and a threat?

Forceme Silverspar shrugs. Weirdo.

Crying

2012-01-24T06:15:00.000Z

I had a chat with someone about the process of crying. Not actually the tears and boo-hoo part of crying exactly although I will come on to that in a sec. but rather the process of making someone else cry. Was it ethically and morally right to break someone mentally at their own request, in order for them to be emotionally broken; copious tears being measure of success.

Forceme Silverspar twists.

This convo made me think. And me thoughts got very complicated. As I look at me thoughts, I see a bowl of spaghetti. Lemme try and suck up a couple of strands.

To hurt someone, is to hurt someone. There are all types of pain around in the world. Physical pain and emotional pain can be sub-divided up into all sorts of specific types these days, each having their own little particularities, symptoms and remedies. Now I ain't gonna judge what pain lasts longest, which had the most impact, how it can affect life other than for myself. I know that the physical pain I had during childbirth, during my stay in hospital for an operation, for my tooth ache, for my scraped knee at the age of 5, very quickly passed. Once the pain was gone, it was gone and I suffer from no bad effects of having experienced that physical pain.

Emotional pain tho lingers and festers don't it? I know events that happened to me as a child stay with me to this day. I have to swallow hard and blink away the tears as I remember a painful memory I suffered as a young child. I think that kind of pain will stop with me forever and ever.

If I accept that emotional pain has - errrr for me - longer, stronger and bigger impact than physical pain, and as in SL it is impossible to simulate physical pain, but hey, emotional pain is easily come across... I wonder if people, including me, understand and allow for the high risk factor this emotional pain and the consequences thereof can bring forth.

How then would I feel if I was asked specifically to emotionally break a sub so she felt this emotional pain rather than any crappy simulated physical pain? Woah. Pain, is pain, remember? There are some masochists out there that enjoy this pain stuff. We readily accept the giving of physical pain in such situation, but is it right to be doing the emotional stuff? I have to ask myself, well why not if consent is there from those who desire this stuff and they have the ability to stop it when they want, ie have a safeword? It is a riskier business, I think. The long term consequences I guess would be largely unknown. Short term? Folks best be prepared for some serious ructions.

So, would it be considered a scene then? A scene like any other scene? A scene where the objective is to bring the sub to an emotional wreck, crying and distraught and ends in some gooey after care? That's all well and good.

But let's take it a stage further... What if the situation is not considered a scene that has a beginning, middle and end but rather a real situation that brings the sub to the same emotional place? Maybe the sub has behaved in such a way as to warrant serious punishment, the dom punishes, the sub reaches the same emotional bad place as the sub who yearned to be there.

At what point does this emotional distress turn from the consequence of her poor behaviour into abuse? I dunno if I could ever put my finger on if, where and when that happens. After all, a punishment is not meant to be a walk in the park, is it? A punishment is meant to hurt. Part of a dom's job is to hurt their sub, hmm? Forceme Silverspar pulls a face. I presume she has consented to be in this relationship and has consented to be punished if she disobeys. And... is a sub who is in distress after a real punishment entitled to after care? I can't work that one out. My gut says no. But is it right to put anyone in a distressed state and then leave them there? Is that the action of a caring loving dom? Forceme Silverspar twists again. Is this the tough love people talk about? Risky risky risky.

Crying, I think is a generally a healthy action. Certainly the scientists think so. People cry for a variety of reasons; sadness, fear, sympathy, anger, happiness... the action of releasing these boo-hoo tears is good for the body. Did ya know for example, that tears contain different things depending on why the tears are being created? Kinda amazing innit? I can understand why subs may want to be pushed emotionally in order to reach this emotional breaking point, that height of emotions, that explosion, that release, is reminiscent of something else, eh? We do feel better after a cry, don't we?

It's not something I would like to see a dim-dom to be taking on with a sub. I think the chances of some serious long-term irreversible damage being done would be high. I do however think, that a dom with the skill and knowledge to man-handle a sub through the journey of this emotional breaking could be an interesting thing to see or experience.

That closet-dom Charles Dickens had his character Mr Bumble from Oliver Twist say about crying "It opens the lungs, washes the countenance, exercises the eyes, and softens down the temper; so cry away."

Forceme Silverspar boooooo-hooooooos.

Hercules

2012-01-22T12:23:00.003Z

I got an IM from someone who wanted to ask me a question about how I got into the lifestyle and why in order to complete some homework she had been given from a training facility. OKayyyyy. Fair enough. Talking with others is certainly something I encourage people to do. I sent her off to my one-year-a-submissive blog post because I think that explains just as well as anything.

BB then IMs me to tell me he, yes you guessed it, got the same request as I did. The same copy and pasted requested. Nothing like a personal approach, eh?

My curiosity piqued, BB and I went to have a look at this training place the homework-gathering gal was sent from. I am gonna keep the name of the place anonymous for reasons that will become apparent in a minute. If ya know the place, you'll know the place via the pic.

We walked into this huge newspapered coloured voluminous hall and luckily for us bumped into two of its owners. I will keep them anonymous too. This is how information gathering should happen. See how the main gal offers info? See how she answers questions without crying and without puffing silly chests out and without pouting and frowning? See how she passes-by or plays with me and my comments? BRAVO, gal!

Resident 1: Hello Bouncing, Hello Forceme
Resident 2: If either of you need any info about *** please let me know :)
Forceme Silverspar: Sure, thanks! What can ya tell me about the place?
Resident 1:  sis, you been drinking again?
Resident 2: well we are a meeting, and training faciliy for all Dominants and submissives
Resident 2: Nah Sis on a loaner computer mine getting fixed am laged lol
Resident 2: we also offer classes and group discussion to improve the Dominants and slaves relationships
Forceme Silverspar: You train doms? That is funny. How does that work?
Resident 1:  lol
Resident 2: we are also exspanding to Slave actioning
Resident 1:  some are untrainable1
Resident 1:  !
Resident 2: well we try to pair the DOm up with a Mentor to shadow and learn from
Resident 2: but it is over al the Dom's Nature first and formost
Forceme Silverspar: As is the sub's I presume.
Forceme Silverspar: What classes do you offer?
Resident 2: of Course
Resident 1:  (moment)
Resident 2: the change weekly
Resident 2: we have had classes on LImits, master slave relationships,
Resident 2: ettiquite
Resident 2: protocol of a slave
Resident 2: subspace, and more
Forceme Silverspar: Do I just turn up to classes?
Resident 2: yes, we send out a schedule on Saturdays, as wel as put up the current classes in the event board. We also send out group notices and hour before and 15 mins before they start
Forceme Silverspar: You two sis-Mistresses... are the doms leading the classes?
Resident 2: we are two of the instructors but wealso have a few others as well
Resident 2: we have 5 other instructors as well
Resident 2: as us :)
Forceme Silverspar: That's great, will make time to attend one of your classes.
Forceme Silverspar: Are they free?
Resident 2: yes there are:)
Resident 2: plkease feel free to look around and we look forward to seeing at classes
Resident 2: would you like a group Add
Forceme Silverspar: How do I get a schedule?
Forceme Silverspar: Yes please.
Resident 2: what roles for each of you?
Forceme Silverspar: Oh, they done in separate sessions?
Resident 2: not alwas we just want to give you all the titles you may rp
Forceme Silverspar: Oh, this a roleplay school?
Resident 2: no I say Roleplay beuse it is easiest to convey what I am talking about thatway
Resident 2: D/s is a lifestyle but it is considered a rp as well
Forceme Silverspar: Well I can easy roleplay in any role, so take ya pick. Same for BB. He is a good actor too.
Forceme Silverspar: Thanks for group invite :)
Resident 2: lol yw
Resident 2: :)

But then... Enter stage left - dim-dom. Dim-doms are never very far from me. I think actually, I am a dim-dom magnet.

Forceme Silverspar: Lots of porn pics around here...
Resident 2: well as I said feel free to ook around use what ever you like and if you have more questions just shout please :)
Forceme Silverspar: Sexual side feature heavily in your teachings?
Resident 2: also make sure you exsplore outside
Resident 2: not in the teaching it is there for the Dominants that want to use there slaaves in that manner
Resident 2: the upstairs has a picture for each action to give it an added flair

Forceme Silverspar blinks a bit. Eh? Teaching 'How to dom' via picture-instructions? FS shrugs. Here dim-dom comes...

Hercules: Pardpn the intrusion
Resident 2: hello [RP name] :)
Hercules: Heya sexy
Resident 2 whispers: [RP name] is our Host here at ***
Resident 2: :)
Forceme Silverspar: Ya mean the photos inspire the doms coz otherwise they wouldn't know what to do with their slave?
Hercules: Well..... a little More then Just a Host, but yea,

Forceme Silverspar roars laffing. Of course a big strong dim-dom has to be more than just a host even tho the owner of the place just called him a host. Idiot. And what's with the odd capitalisation mid sentences? Super-idiot.

Forceme Silverspar: Hiya Hercules.
Bouncing Box: Nice to meet you.
Resident 2: :)
Hercules: likewise
Resident 2: no it is to act as a mental stimulation
Hercules: and Please, its [RP name]

Sorry, no I don't do RP names. I can see this is gonna annoy him.

Resident 2: just as roleplay is
Forceme Silverspar: Thanks for your time.
Resident 2: np :)
Hercules: anytime you wish to come By, please do
Resident 2: :)
Hercules: always Up for some fun Grins

This idiot type of typing is now annoying me. And I don't like the grin and I don't like the grin at the end of the sentence and I don't like the grinning connotation of what he is saying. Just don't Grin, OK, fella?

Resident 2 brb in a sec Steele
Forceme Silverspar: What kinda fun?

Yeah, what ya suggesting fella?

Hercules: nods take your time darlin
Hercules: depend on what you consider fun
Forceme Silverspar: Yeah, I was asking you :)

Add a smilie Force, ya know, just to lighten the tone.

Hercules: lol
Hercules: I myself enjoy usiong subs or slaves, in different wasy
Hercules: tho I'm also Not the typical Dominant in SL

Now, why don't you just pin a target to ya chest so I know where to shoot the sticky-arrow, eh? With a statement like that, surely he didn't think I would just smile and nod?

Forceme Silverspar: Oh? How are you different to the typical dom in SL?
Hercules: I'm Not here Just for sex like most are
Hercules: thats Not "ALL" this Lifestyle is about
Forceme Silverspar: You wouldn't realise that by looking at these walls :)
Hercules: So many 90% of the others think it is
Forceme Silverspar: Yeah, these walls encourage that view.

Have ya seen these walls? I mean, have you? Have you seen the images and the words on the posters?

Hercules: well there also Models portraying a part
Hercules: and Most getting Well paid

Porn models? What is he on about?

Hercules: its up to the 1s in the Lifestyle to Teach others (or thse who will Listen) thats in Not all about it

Yes, lovely, so ya work in a place with porn pics dripping down the walls, grin and tell me you like 'fun' and go on to tell me you like using slaves and then say, it's up to those in the lifestyle to teach others it's not just about sex?

Resident 2: hmm, do you think we do not portray the correct image?

Bingo again lady. Ya a sharp one. 1) For getting my point, and 2) For asking someone else's opinion.

Forceme Silverspar: So why all these pics that encourage the sex side of the lifestyle? It's a bit like have 50 adverts for beers and whiskey at the Alcoholics Anonymous meeting hall :)

Resident 2: no that is an outright tease
Resident 2: I feel it is portraying acts of submission and it is in theeye of the beholder

Fair enough ya know. That's her view, her opinion, it's her place after all. I don't happen to agree with what she is saying but that's not an issue.

Forceme Silverspar: Not here to discuss your decor, just think your decor goes very much against what your host is talking about :)
Hercules: Wo
Resident 2: and you are entitled to your opinion but I feel I must say that when I chose the pictures it was with acts of DOminance and submission in mind not sex :)

Hercules: What I;m talking about ?

I copy and paste the words from one of the posters.

Forceme Silverspar: "Beat Me, Whip Me, Make Me Bleed, Kinky Sex Is What I Need. Come On Baby, Lets Get Rough, Bring A Friend.... YOU'RE NOT ENOUGH"
Forceme Silverspar grins.
Resident 2: yes it is in my profile,
Resident 2: it is about me not the Halls
Forceme Silverspar: Hercules, you are talking that you are not the typical type of dom, who thinks the lifestyle is about sex, when you don't think it is.
Hercules: thats also in a Pic here in the Halls hun
Forceme Silverspar: I go that off a poster form the wall.
Forceme Silverspar: Anyway...
Hercule: your right
Forceme Silverspar: Lovely to have met ya both!
Resident 2: with you being a lifestyler.... is everything you DO ALWAYS ABOUT SEX OR IS IT ABOUT THE dOMINANCE YOU HOLD?
Resident 2: shit cap lock s sorry was not shouting
Forceme Silverspar: I very much look forward to sitting in on one of your classes.
Hercules: But don;t go thinking that everyone is here in the Lifestyle for Sex,

Oh dear Lord, will someone gag this fella before he drowns me in idiot-spit?

Resident 2: you are welcome anytime
Hercules: Not everyone thinks it is, and many of the pictures **** has out, do portray sex yes, but Not all

Not all? OK 1 out of 50 maybe, if I am being generous.

Forceme Silverspar: Yes hercules, I understand that... I don't at all think that. My point is... your hall pictures do not reflect your view.
Hercules: So Do NOT go putting wotds in My mouth

Oh puffy fluffy puffy fluffy chest puffs and fluffs out. Don't argue with idiots, Force. I am getting at this stage quicker, don't ya think?!

Forceme Silverspar: We will take a look around, thanks both for ya time!
Resident 2: have a good one
Forceme Silverspar: OK, fella, calm down.
Forceme Silverspar: Come BB.
Forceme Silverspar: Bye both.

After 2 mins... I get an IM.

Hercules: Fella ? Don;t bother returning, I;m Not 1 of your playtoys

Oh funnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnny! So what do I do? I return, of course. Idiot.

Object: Forceme Silverspar is at the door.
Forceme Silverspar: Nice place ya have outside :)
Hercules: Thank you

Forceme Silverspar sniggers, I love people like this, they entertain me no end tons more than most other things. I am quite lucky to get my entertainment for free.

Galileo

2012-01-21T12:39:00.000Z

Those of us that tell the honest truth and just say it as it is, those of us that don't lie to benefit ourselves or lie to please others, typically receive terse treatment. I expect that and I am in good company; Copernicus, Galileo. Forceme Silverspar smiles brightly and winks.

I have left the Adult Hub to focus on my energies elsewhere and I have removed all my classes from Blacksilk back to where I all started, Bondage Playground.

Happy 4th Blog-day!

2012-01-12T22:39:00.000Z

Year one, 12th January 2009 - My blog, 16000 unique visitors, 244 posts and 1 year old today
Year two, 12th January 2010 - My blog, 62127 hits, 449 posts, 81 followers and 2 years old today
Year three, 12th January 2011 - My blog, 139123 hits, 690 posts, 111 followers, 1366 comments and 3 years old today

Year four!

12th January 2012 - My blog, 257906 hits, 934 posts, 141 Followers, 2291 comments and 4 years old today!

Crap landlord

2012-01-07T02:55:00.003Z

Do NOT rent land from this bloke domino Deluxe (Err I notice Deluxe is one of those scammy names) from Dream love island company. I have been very good with my home landlords, and I have been a very good tenant but for privacy reasons, I had to move out of Freedom Continent and go somewhere else.

I found idiot company Dream love island and we rented a plot there. Paid for one week, coz ya never know if it's a scam, after that paid one more week... my rent always due on a Friday.

Logged in today to find we had been evicted coz I was 17 hours late. Sure I could have paid yesterday but be reasonable eh? It's not even a day late. Totally idiotic behaviour and in these days of tight belts and too much land in SL, it's a very idiot and stupid way to treat people who wanna give ya money.

Help me out here?

2012-01-05T03:13:00.001Z

I put out a money tree at Adult Hub Central, not only to help the noobs with a few Lindens, but to show them what to look out for as they go about Second Life. It is being sponsored by Think Kink and other generous residents feed the tree every now and then. I have set the tree so no one can take more than L$10 a day off the tree and no one more than 30 days old can take.

When someone either feeds the tree or takes money from the tree, I get to know about it through transactions in local chat. I like to keep an eye on who is taking what.

I saw this come up in my local chat.

[17:04] You paid Magly Ashland L$1.
[17:04] You paid Magly Ashland L$1.
[17:04] You paid Magly Ashland L$1.
[17:04] You paid Magly Ashland L$1.
[17:04] You paid Magly Ashland L$1.
[17:04] You paid Magly Ashland L$1.
[17:04] You paid Magly Ashland L$1.
[17:04] You paid Magly Ashland L$1.
[17:04] You paid Magly Ashland L$1.

Forceme Silverspar blinks a bit. Hang about, summat not right here. How come it ain't a Resident? Did I set the tree up wrongly? Hmm nope. I checked. I checked her profile... 4 days old.

I only saw one option... a custom second name. Why would anyone with a custom second name be raking L$1 off money trees? It costs 500USD to set up a name and then 500USD annual payment. to keep it. It didn't smell right. I IM'ed her.

[17:09] Forceme Silverspar: Hello there.
[17:09] Forceme Silverspar: You just took money off my money tree...
[17:10] Magly Ashland: hello :)
[17:10] Magly Ashland: yes yes
[17:10] Magly Ashland: ty
[17:10] Forceme Silverspar: A question if you don't mind?
[17:10] Magly Ashland: sure do
[17:10] Forceme Silverspar: How come you don't have a Resident second name?
[17:11] Magly Ashland: thats a trick

A trick? A trick that allows you to get a non-'Resident' name? And then allows you to take off money from money trees designated for noobs?

[17:11] Magly Ashland: wanna same ?
[17:11] Forceme Silverspar: Sure!

I sure as hell wanna know what the hell ya up to, yes.

[17:11] Magly Ashland: lol
[17:11] Magly Ashland: have u money ?

Errr, here we go.

[17:11] Forceme Silverspar: Yeah.
[17:12] Magly Ashland: have many ls u give for a lastname ?

She wants me to name my price for her to do her trick to get me a second name?

[17:13] Forceme Silverspar: What ya mean?
[17:13] Magly Ashland: how
[17:13] Magly Ashland: lol
[17:13] Magly Ashland: sorry
[17:14] Forceme Silverspar: I pay you for you to tell me how I get a second name?
[17:14] Magly Ashland: no
[17:14] Magly Ashland: i give u a second name

No I didn't think she would be telling me her trick.

[17:14] Magly Ashland: from today
[17:14] Forceme Silverspar: OK :)
[17:14] Magly Ashland: u give me first name
[17:15] Magly Ashland: i propose 9 lastname and u say me which one u want

So she has 9 second names to choose from? 9 X 500USD = a lot of money, if, and it's a big if, if she has custom names to pay for. No I don't believe it. How is she doing it? What's the trick?

[17:15] Magly Ashland: i make it
[17:15] Magly Ashland: and give u password

As I have already established on my blog, it is against ToS to transfer accounts.

[17:15] Magly Ashland: how many ls u offer ?

Wooooohah! Hmm, Forceme Silverspar hums Lady Gaga's Poker Face

[17:15] Forceme Silverspar: Hmm I got 215L, that enough?
[17:16] Magly Ashland: ;)
[17:16] Magly Ashland smiles
[17:16] Magly Ashland: no sorry
[17:16] Magly Ashland: have a nice day
[17:16] Magly Ashland: and take care
[17:16] Magly Ashland: ^^

Hmm OK.

[17:16] Forceme Silverspar: How much do you need?
[17:16] Magly Ashland: nothing less than 5000

L$5000?!

[17:18] Forceme Silverspar: I will try and get 5000L for you. Give me a day or two?

Yeah, gimme time to think coz, even if I pass over L$5000 to prove it's do-able, I still don't know how ya doing it.

[17:18] Magly Ashland: no problem
[17:18] Magly Ashland: tp me
[17:18] Forceme Silverspar: Me?
[17:18] Magly Ashland: yes

So I did, not to the hub tho, I TPed her to my home. I didn't want her roused although if I have a money tree, I ain't exactly green behind the gills, am I?

[17:18] Magly Ashland: will give u my card

Card? Now a card is not something a noob knows, I have dealt with 1000s of noobs, and cards are not known. Full stop. Don't believe this at all. It's a cheat, scam, trick, however she wants to put it. And she stole 10L off my tree.

[17:19] Magly Ashland: give me urs
[17:20] Forceme Silverspar: You are not a noob tho are you?
[17:20] Magly Ashland: yes im a noob
[17:20] Magly Ashland: give your card
[17:20] Forceme Silverspar: I don't know how to?

See? Play the game right. Let me how much much this 4 day old noob knows.

[17:20] Magly Ashland: quick pleaz mum say to go to bed now

What?!

[17:20] Magly Ashland: right clic on me
[17:20] Forceme Silverspar: How old are you?
[17:21] Magly Ashland: and more
[17:21] Forceme Silverspar: OK...
[17:21] Magly Ashland: and give a card
[17:21] Forceme Silverspar: More...
[17:21] Magly Ashland: or ad me in your friends
[17:21] Forceme Silverspar: OK, I add to friends too.
[17:21] Magly Ashland: are u working for policia ?

Yeah not surprised ya asking me gal. Not surprised at all.

[17:21] Magly Ashland: why u ask how old im ?
[17:21] Forceme Silverspar: How old are you?
[17:21] Forceme Silverspar: HAHAH no.

Yeah HAHA - me laffs good when I fake it.

[17:21] Magly Ashland: ty i have ur card
[17:21] Magly Ashland: call me when u need :)
[17:22] Magly Ashland: i have to go to bed now
[17:22] Forceme Silverspar: Ok byebye
[17:22] Magly Ashland: bye
[17:22] Forceme Silverspar: Byebye!

I don't believe this is a legit process. LL's own page on custom names gives clear information about them, this is just a flavour, each point LL makes goes against what she is doing if she is doing this through Custom names, which I don't believe she is.

Custom name requests may not be ordered on behalf of, or billed to, a second party. First party requests only please.
Please make sure that the Second Life account you intend to own the custom name has complete billing information or enough funds so that your account does not become delinquent when the custom name is billed.
Linden Lab cannot transfer content to new accounts.
Last names must clearly be an organizational or corporate name, and distinguished from personal last names (surnames). For example, "Smith" is not acceptable, but "SmithCorp," "SmithInc," "SmithProducts" or "SmithConstruction" are.

So, what's she up to? Any ideas?

Happy New Year 2011

2012-01-01T12:33:00.000Z

To all my readers!

Almost my worst enemy...

2011-12-31T22:13:00.000Z

This kinda person is just about what I might call my nemesis. I remember when I was at Bonanza, one of the things Bull said endlessly to the noobs was "We will help you but you need to listen." This was very true. The noobs I come across at the hub, if they listen, they get on further, quicker. If they think they know best, don't listen, go on regardless, they waste everyone's time.

So I finished Christmasville YAY and I was just hanging about there, helping BB with his last bits. Fella came up to me and we had this convo...

Resident: hi
Forceme Silverspar: Hi
Resident: have you done any of the blue chimenys yet?
Forceme Silverspar: Yup.
Resident: i need help for the snaowman nose
Resident: you know that one?
Resident: wow.. too much lag
Forceme Silverspar: You need three people
Resident: i need to do the snaowmand nose
Resident: i will try again
Forceme Silverspar: One person each wears a part.
Resident: snowmans nose
Resident: i need another 2 helpers
Resident: can you help
Forceme Silverspar: Yes
Resident: plus one more
Resident: thanks
Forceme Silverspar: TP me
Resident: but a bit quiet tonight
Resident: is there anyone else you know?
Forceme Silverspar: Yep
Resident: ok.. will tp you when i am ready
Resident: can you tp the third person
Resident: ok.. i will go there now
Forceme Silverspar: OK.

Well, it's OK so far.

Resident: i can tp you now.. but i still need another
Resident: do you know anyone else

Eh? I just said I know another, he even said I can TP in third person. (Oh gee thanks fella)

Resident: hi
Forceme Silverspar: Hi
Forceme Silverspar: So you wear nose...
Forceme Silverspar: I wear left arm
Resident: i will wear right arm

Forceme Silverspar blinks a bit. Are ya listening to me fella? Or are ya blindly ignoring everything I say? I said, YOU WEAR THE NOSE.

Resident: is there anyone else around?

Forceme Silverspar knocks him on the the forehead, Anyone in there? I said I would TP someone in. You told me I could do that (How generous.)

Forceme Silverspar: Did you read what I wrote?
Forceme Silverspar: You wear nose...
Resident: ok

That's better. Anyhow, we get the blue chimney puzzle sorted out. Byebye fella. Then some time later...

Resident: hi again
Forceme Silverspar: Hi.
Resident: i found a purple chimnry
Resident: in the woods
Resident: are there any blue chimenye in the woods..?
Resident: can you remeber?
Forceme Silverspar: Can't remember.

No seriously, I don't remember. I have LMs to the chimneys, but I have no idea where most of chimneys are.

Resident: ok.. anyway defintely one purple here
Resident: near the big cottage house
Resident: wooden house
Forceme Silverspar nods.
Resident: good luck

I nodded coz I figured he was just trying to help me out, in case I needed purple chimney. Be nice, Forceme.

Resident: hi.. are there any blue chimenys in the woods at all?

Now what's the matter with this bloke. I told him I dunno if there were any blue chimneys in the woods, why isn't he listening,why does he have to ask exactly the same question again?

Forceme Silverspar: Are you ill? You've just asked me that.
Resident: have you been in the woods?
Resident: before?
Resident: surely you must know
Resident: did you do all the blues?
Resident: i have a hunch i am on a lost cause here in the woods

Forceme Silverspar growls. How more simpler do I have to say that I can't remember if there was a blue chimney in the woods? And asking me for a third time, doesn't help my memory.

Forceme Silverspar: You don't listen to my replies.
Resident: how can you not remeber??.. seems odd
Resident: i am beginning to think there are no blues in the woods

Forceme Silverspar has enough and gets snotty.

Forceme Silverspar: Remember this....?
Resident:  simply becaues i have found a purple
Forceme Silverspar: [16:16] Resident:  are there any blue chimenye in the woods..?
[16:17] Resident:  can you remeber?
[16:17] Forceme Silverspar: Can't remember
[16:17] Resident:  ok.. anyway defintely one purple here
[16:17] Resident:  near the big cottage house
[16:17] Resident:  wooden house
[16:18] Forceme Silverspar nods
[16:18] Swany Lyle: good luck

Then a bit later...

Resident: hi.. are there any blue chimenys in the woods?

Forceme Silverspar screams. What pills is this fella on?

Resident: and i just need someone who has done the blues to confirm my beleif
Forceme Silverspar: I told you I CANT REMEMER!
Resident: ok..

Then a bit later...

Resident: there is an orange and a purple in the woods.. there i am no longer indebted to you..
Resident: bye

Indebted to me? What the hell? What makes him think that telling me there is an orange and a purple chimney in the woods is in any way calling in any debt that he thinks he might have with me? Just ignore him Forceme. Got nothing nice to say, don't say anything.

Then a bit later...

Resident: hey.. i found another purple
Resident: i need one more blue
Resident: will trade

ENOUGH! I TELL YOU! ENOUGH!

Forceme Silverspar rolls her eyes. I have finsihed the whole thing, I don't need any chimneys and I still can't remember where the other blue one is. Now please quit IMing me about these chimneys, ya driving me quite nuts.
Resident: ha ha.. ok

See... now when I get a response like 'haha OK' and he doesn't bother me again, it makes me question why I try and be diplomatic and nice and cool in the first place coz it doesn't really get me where I wanna be in most cases. If I have said what I said 2 hours previously, then I wouldn't have had to deal with silly stuff that irritated me.

It's true I tell ya!

2011-12-30T09:03:00.001Z

I thought I would lose myself in Christmasville 2011 for few days. Not sure when it finishes, but I don't think it will be too long. It's brilliantly done, I expect it to be, it's done by same crew as Octoberville which everyone will know I am a great fan of. Hundreds of people have ho-ho-ho'ed through it.

Full of puzzles and intrigues to solve, there is a path of puzzles that involve coloured chimneys. Each colour has four chimneys, and each chimney leads one to a puzzle to be solved. One has to solve the chimney puzzles in the right colour order or the puzzles won't be solved. So first, RED CHIMNEYS. 1, 2, 3 and 4. Done! Now BLUE CHIMNEYS 1, 2, 3 and... my 4th blue chimney... where I am told the puzzle was called "Fairy Lights"

I arrived at the puzzle room...

I see some logs to sit on, some snowmen on a string... nothing to do with Fairy Lights. Forceme Silverspar shrugs. Lemme see if I can solve this puzzle. Nope. Forceme Silverspar sits on the logs in a billion different combinations. Nope. Forceme Silverspar counts the buttons on the snowmen and divides by Pi just for a laugh, and sits on a counted log starting vaguely clockwise. Nope. Forceme Silverspar matches the snowman hats with some number code she makes up and guesses some new log combination of sitting all the time wondering what this has to do with Fairy Lights. An hour later, I gave up and got on with some of the other things to do.

I happen to bump into a fella who asked me how I was getting on; I told him I was defeated on a puzzle - which almost killed me in admitting. "Fairy Lights? Oh that's easy, just match the fairy lights on the Christmas tree with the colours of the letters on the wall." Hmm clearly, not what I recognised after going down the Blue chimney. "No" I said, "I have to sit on logs", "Nooooo" he said, "You have to match up the fairy lights." "No" I said, "I have to sit on logs". He wanted me to show him, so I did. "Oh this is easy, ya have have to have four people sit on the logs", he told me. "What's that to do with Fairy Lights and how could I possible solve this puzzle and know I needed four people here?" By which time, he kindly TPed in 2 others so there were four of there. We all sat down, but of course, it didn't work, because this was indeed not "Fairy Lights" the one I was supposed to be doing so it didn't register correctly on my score list.

Err did I come down the wrong chimney? I went to check. Nope, deffo blue chimney. It's true! It's true! I felt like this wooooooah thing, hey, I am telling the truth, folks! I came down the blue chimney and arrived at this non-blue puzzle! I tell ya I did! I did! Damn-it, I did! Instead, I said calmly, "Oh odd I am sure I came down the blue chimney to get here". How could this happen with so many people doing this before me with no apparent problem? I felt this internal panic inside me... like they didn't believe me. But it was true! It kinda bothered me how this internal panic seered hot in me that I wasn't believed. It was really an over reaction inside me. Hell, it was a chimney colour to solve a little puzzle, in a fun game in a virtual world. But the idea that I had apparently defied logic and arrived at the wrong puzzle, and wouldn't be believed made me - FS twists - feel horrid. It was the blue chimney that bought me to the non-blue puzzle, believe me!

The designer of the Christmasville TPed in to the puzzle after being IMed by one of the other two who came to sit on the logs to see what was going on. "LOL" she says.

LOL? LOL! What's LOL about this? I LOL'ed with her so as not to sound too mental and not too upset that I felt like I had to defend myself, and underline the truth about my actions. "Here, you test it, you look, you see for yourself, you will see, Blue chimney brings you here! It's the truth! I am telling ya gal, I TPed from blue chimney to this puzzle, I felt like rubber-stamping all over her forehead. I did! I did! Just BELIEVE ME!

Turns out what she was LOL'ing about was that someone had been trying to hack the scripts and she had made a change to it and she had made a scripty-techy mistake which accidentally sent ALL chimney TPs to this puzzle and she would get right on it and sort it out and thank you Forceme for spotting it quickly coz it could have caused a lot of embarrassment for the people. Oh yeah, very LOL. I LOL'ed and smiled and said thanks for coming and sorting it, she passed me personally the LM to "Fairy Lights" puzzle and off I went.

So... not only was I panicking that I wouldn't be believed, but the relief I had when I was believed and proved right, was kinda overwhelming. Odd.

Odd, but I can pinpoint, I think, exactly where this feeling came from. If I can go back 36 years to a school trip I had up in the high mountains aged 8. It was sleeping in a dorm of 3 other girls and had nipped into the dorm to get something, returned to the group and a while later one of the other girls discovered her purse was gone and was quick to accuse me of stealing it.

In fact, it wasn't just that girl, it was all the girls, and then it was all the boys. And then it was the teaching/trip staff. I knew I hadn't taken it, yet no one believed me. No one. It was a traumatic experience for me. I remember running away, up into the nearby mountain village, crying and crying and crying, away from home, all alone. Lost. Until an old farmer and his wife found me, took me into their chalet and feed me a bowl of chalet-farmer-wife made honey yoghurt while the fella-farmer showed me a box full of interesting nick-knacks. I soon stopped crying, I liked it here! Un-be known to me, they had contacted the trip centre and the staff were on their way to collect me.

I remember hard clinging on to the chalet railings refusing to let go, crying again now, screaming that I wouldn't go back. "Whaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah! No one believes me, I screamed, I didn't take the purse!" "We know you didn't, we believe you." they said. The male teacher prying my little fingers away from the railing and carrying me to the car. He looked me in the eyes and told me that the girl had found her purse; it had slipped behind the bed and was stuck between the bed and the wall. The RELIEF, I think I fainted, because I can't actually remember anything after that.

Blue chimney indeed.

Christmas moves!

2011-12-27T11:02:00.000Z

Ever tried dancing with a midriff and neck corset on? I must be made of stern stuff, really. Anyhow, some Christmas day dancing at a Blues place and at Lars. Both surprisingly packed considering it was Christmas day.

Happy Christmas...

2011-12-24T13:56:00.000Z

...to all my readers!

Adult Hub Partyyyy!

2011-12-22T02:22:00.000Z

What a cool pic! is this what Gabby Linden was doing for 6 hours at the hub last night?! Taking pics for the Destination Guide, hmm? Anyhow, do come along 11am - 2pm SLT on Thursday 22nd December, we are having our Christmas Party! Lots of stuff going on, but none of it fun without you!

Ya can't have both Force!

2011-12-11T12:46:00.000Z

Master has been working with me on getting me to understand that I do not need my err pound of flesh, as he calls it when I discuss things with other people. I do not have to dig the knife in just because I am right, I do not have to go on and on and on and on telling people they are wrong even if I am right and that it doesn't matter if people think a wrong thing if it means I get to happen what I wanna happen.

I have been using my delete key a lot recently and it's almost killing me to do so. I really really don't understand why I have to let untruths go by, to ignore them, just because picking people up on lies or misconceptions would upset them and if I wanna happen what I wanna happen then best not upset people. I am like, what the hell is that about? So, hang about, I can go around saying untruths and if anyone challenges me on that, then they don't get to play with my ball but if people let those untruths that I say go by, then we can all play nicely together? It really is killing me. And I see no sense in it.

I have seen a few convos recently that mirrored fabrications or at least misconceptions. Even when Master was talking with me about it, I was in the midst of creating a notecard in response, including all evidence to prove to the contrary ready to send to the person. I was incensed someone could make up such crap and happily pass it off as the truth. Master! You know that's not true, why didn't you challenge them about what they were saying?! I am told that if he challenged those things then he wouldn't have got his goals achieved.

Forceme Silverspar spits feathers. No really. It's true. Seems to me the whole world goes around lying (and ignoring lies) and stroking each others backs in order for everyone to be allowed to play the same game. I think it would be far better if the world went around knowing the truth. So Master's advice... Achieve your goal by whatever means you need to. Even if that means shutting up, letting people say untruths, believing untruths and saying untruths myself. So long as my goal is achieved, then all is good. Forceme Silverspar growls and pouts. OK Master, you know this is gonna kill me don't ya eh?

http://www.badongo.com/audio/26051725

Then funnily, a day later I heard this on Radio 4. An expert psychologist fella who has done some work on complaining. I am like... what?! He has just repeated exactly what Master said! I can't have both! I can't have the truth and achieve my goal. OK so I am gonna try this... When I open my mouth, you will hear me say lies and allow you to think and believe lies and I am gonna do this so that I can achieve my goal.

If that ain't manipulation, I dunno what is, but hey... I guess people call it diplomacy. I will give it a go. So watch out, don't believe anything I say from now on coz I will prolly be lying to ya!

Carrying on the INTJ theme...

2011-12-11T00:14:00.000Z

So fella who sent me the link before sent me a new link to these pics today... I really can't remember the last time I roared laughing as much as I roared laughing at this pictures. He found them of Fetlife apparently. Gawd knows where they all originated from. Bloody funny stuff. Forceme Silverspar squirms a bit at the truth before her. Hey ho.

Those on my bad side, usually know about it, yes.

Yeah, I will succeed and fail at very few things.

Gawd, it's them sheep again.

Hmm yeah? What's the issue; it gets things done that way.

Yeah, coz if I disagree agree with it, I ain't doing it, got it?

I think I would actually have to physically stop myself from doing this... because I would naturally do it so easily.

Yeah, if your system is idiotic and stupid, then I have no qualms about saying so.

Yeah, don't bother arguing with me, you are likely to lose.

Yeah, why can't people just see the obvious like what I can?

Yeah, few people see the vision like what I do.

Yeah, I hate small talk. I would rather poke me eyes out.

Shopping, clothes, everyday activities, banal things like details, bore me. I'd much rather have a problem to think about.

Yeah, I have active mind that needs stimulation, and bores quickly. If I get bored, then, go find some challenge somewhere.

Err yeah... it is true, sorry and all that.

Interesting one this... I do care, but I am very selective about what I care about. I don't care about things people think I should care about, but I don't live to other people's shoulds.

I've never done this but, it would highly amuse me to do it.

Yes they are and I have great ones.

Yeah, dont' try and test me, I will eat ya for breakfast.

Yeah! I can wait, and do wait. Sometimes, months, sometimes years even.

Yeah got that? I am thinking. I think most when I am silent.

Ouchie, gosh, errrr yes... I think this a lot.

Wot? No stomach?

2011-12-10T11:39:00.000Z

Funny how other people know my protocols and pick me up on them when they think I am going against them. It's no bad thing. It's always done in a friendly and caring way. They know I ain't allowed to be naked, and recently I have been half so. Under instructions of course, but they don't know that. They whisper to me "Do you know...?"

I think Master is on a punishment bent recently, I was AFK and not really allowed to be without informing him. I returned to find I was hairless, stomachless, AO less. I am feeling a bit bare up top now, and it's blooming too cold to be like this in this weather. And where does Master expect my butties to go, hm? Hm?

A dissected INTJ

2011-12-05T23:58:00.002Z

Funny... I just knew this link would make me smile wayyyy before the page had time to load. In fact, I was beaming hugely when I was sent the link after a fella had read my profile at the hub. http://thomaslauer.com/start/How_to_handle_an_INTJ

It was just the title that made me laff. "How to handle..." yeah, I think we need handling. INTJ, of course refers to the Meyers Briggs personality types. Introverted (I), Intuitive (N) Thinking (T) and Judging (J) - yeah that's me.

How brilliant is this person to have come up with this by just observing INTJs? I find it hard to believe this has not been written by someone who knows me intimately. And if you do know me, even if it is just via the blog, you will recognise this is talking about me. And it gives good advice in terms of what to expect from me, arh, it's very very very good.

Expect debate. INTJs enjoy tearing things apart to understand them and to prove (or disprove) their worthiness
They will gladly argue a point they don't actually support, just for the sake of argument or to probe things. This bears repeating: an INTJ can easily and persuasively assume a point of view which is wholly contrary to his actual conviction. If in doubt, ask
INTJs do have a strong sense of humour, often dry and quick, but also a bit warped. It can easily take a morbid streak
Expect blunt, honest, sometimes even hurtful answers: if you don't want to hear the truth, you wouldn't ask, would you?
INTJs like to do lists, enumerations, pattern sorting and putting things into an ordered state (ordered for them, not necessarily for the rest of the world)
Statements you can't back up with either solid facts or solid reasoning will at best be ignored and at worst poked fun at in ways not many people would describe as nice
Try to be both concise and precise. Using 81 woolly words where 18 sharp ones would suffice will not endear you to them
They do love wordplay though: if you can re-package your 81 woolly words in a witty, unexpected, esoteric fashion, they'll appreciate that
Don't expect an INTJ to respect anything you (or some other authorities) say just because you (or some other authorities) say it. INTJs bow to one authority only: rationality [Err plus one exception here :)]
For an INTJ truth is more important than simply being right, so they will readily admit errors or mistakes (once they have been convinced something they said or did was indeed wrong — to convince them may not be easy though). INTJs unfortunately expect others to work likewise (and react bewildered if they don't)
Stick to a statement after being proven wrong by facts or reasoning and an INTJ will treat you as an irrational idiot and everything you say as probable nonsense
Try not to be repetitive. It bores them to death
Clumsy attempts at political correctness and similar aberrations will greatly amuse them
Don't be surprised at sarcasm, hyperbole and flippancy. In fact, a non-sarcastic INTJ must be severely ill
Expect punctuality and exactness. They try hard to be on time and they hate unpunctual-ness, especially of the casual sort: the words obsessive-compulsive come to mind
They tend to be quite forgetful in everyday life, especially for trivial things like car keys, dropped tools or anniversaries
You can't trust that an INTJ takes something, anything for granted. They do take some things for granted, but you'll never know what and what not. The more extreme ones are actually willing to put everything to the test (and I mean everything)
Remember that INTJs believe in workable solutions. They are open-minded to all and every possibility, but they will quickly discard any concept they deem infeasible
Their way of showing that something you say (an idea, a suggestion) has potential or merit is by trying to pull it apart (which shocks those poor souls who instead expected awe or admiration). The ultimate INTJ insult to an idea or suggestion is to ignore it altogether, because that means it's not even interesting enough to deconstruct
INTJs can and will make themselves and everything else (and again, I mean everything) the butt of their jokes, witticisms and deeply nonsensical remarks
Do not expect INTJs to care very much about how you view them. They already know that many people see them as arrogant bastards with a weird sense of humour and they long since got used to it

Aww this was sooooo SWEET!

2011-12-04T14:41:00.001Z

So over at the Adult Hub Central, I have some Basic Skills classes set up where a number of folks have kindly volunteered their time to deliver quick and easy classes for the noobs once a day. It's quite a fun challenge to get 29 classes delivered every month and so far four folks are delivering them with me. If ya fancy a go at doing a class or two, let me know!

This was the class yesterday which I delivered, based on the subject of 'Avatars'. It was soooooo sweet, I had two complete noobs, Embers and her fella Gerritt, and Misty a hub manager and BB sit in on the class. I think the two noobs got something out of it and that's what matters. It was fun! From humble beginnings...

Forceme Silverspar looks about

2011-12-02T09:13:00.001Z

This will teach me to do as I am told. No IMs, no Inventory. Stuck in the middle of no where. An empty blue poseball sits menacingly and threateningly open in front of me, almost glaring at me.

Time management

2011-11-28T10:11:00.000Z

***** *****: smiles in memory of a class long ago, "Had a class in time management some years back. The instructor did it as follows.
***** *****: He asked the audience to image an empty jar.
Forceme Silverspar listens.
***** *****: Now imagine placing large rocks carefully into the jar. He then asked the audience if they jar was full. They answered yes.
***** *****: Then he added some gravel to the jar and carefully shook the jar until now more would fit. Repeated the question. Is the jar full, the yesses then were a bit less certain.
***** *****: Then he proceeded to fill the jar some more with sand. Repeated the question. The yesses were very uncertain.
Forceme Silverspar: Yes, always pack a bit more in eh?
***** *****: Then one more time, he took some water and filled the jar to the brim. Asked if it was full. The yesses were quite solid now.
***** *****: Then he asked "What does this show you?"
***** *****: Looks at Forceme's reply, "Yes, that's the answer the audience gave."
***** *****: But the instructor looked confused. Looked at the jar again. And said "put the big rocks in first."
***** *****: The big rocks were the importaint tasks. Those that you really needed to have done.
***** *****: If you filled that jar with water, you would have no room for anything important.
Forceme Silverspar: Yep, we need to know which tasks are our rocks.
***** ***** nods, "Indeed."
Forceme Silverspar: It's a good story.
Forceme Silverspar: I like it.
***** ***** nods, "Thank you. Wish I had done more than simply remember and repeat it."
***** *****: And the gravel?
Forceme Silverspar: You mean like actually act on it.
Forceme Silverspar: Hmm yeah I was thinking of that.
Forceme Silverspar: Gravel and sand prolly the hardest to identify.
Forceme Silverspar: Water is pretty easy too.
***** *****: Water is the ducks.
Forceme Silverspar sees a blog post :)
***** *****: A drop here, a drop there, soon no more room for rocks, gravel, or sand.
Forceme Silverspar: Or there is and it all bursts out and overflows and a mess is made
***** ***** nods, "There is that too."

I like stories and I particularly like stories that are visual and I can make use of. This story was told to me quite about a different matter but it struck me. It's an image I think I will remember and use a lot. As it was being told to me, I tried to figure out what stuff I would consider my rocks, my gravel, my sand and my water. The jar is only so big; there are only 24 hours in a day.

I do have too much water splish-sploshing about in my jar, gonna cut that down a lot.

I am not understanding this fella...

2011-11-25T09:56:00.000Z

This new Resident fella came to the hub the other day asking for a 100% straight guy place for same sex cyber. Errr I don't get that. I did ask him and didn't get an answer. I think he was shy. I didn't really get what he meant. I wondered if perhaps he just liked watching gays? But then that wouldn't be cybering? Or maybe, he wanted to RP being a straight guy and being persuaded to engage in gay stuff. Beyond that, I was lost. Neither of those two things were what he was looking for. He went off, not terribly helped.

He returned yesterday still in search for what he is looking for, still I am not understanding what he is wanting and still he is not able to explain. Can someone shed some light on this for me coz I am well confused. What's he looking for?

Forceme Silverspar: Did ya find ya gay place fella?
Resident: not really
Resident: just been surfing still
Resident: feel like I don't fit in
Forceme Silverspar: Aww you used search for groups or places with your interest?
Resident: yeah mostly
Resident: all I really found that is close to what I was looking for are gay places for homosexuals
Resident: I am 100% straight
Forceme Silverspar: Yeah Resident, I have to say, I not come across your itnerest exactly in SL but I am sure it is here.
Resident: okay it's fine
Forceme Silverspar: Is it that ya like to watch gays?
Resident: nope. I used to talk on a place called Jackinchat
Forceme Silverspar listens.
Forceme Silverspar: Yeah, and what happens at this place?

Forceme Silverspar Googles quickly

Resident: I met a guy on there who told me abou here
Forceme Silverspar: Come here a bit closer so I ain't shouting.
Resident: I asked if there were str8 guys into same sex cyber he said abosolutely
Resident: I'm sorry
Forceme Silverspar: I am really trying to understand what ya looking for coz I am sure we can help ya...
Forceme Silverspar: You wanna cyber with men?
Resident: yup just other str8 guys
Forceme Silverspar: So two straight men cybering together is not gay?
Resident: true but it's just fantasy to me
Resident: it's fine I will just keep surfing
Forceme Silverspar: If you stopped here and explained, you would save yaself a lot of time.
Forceme Silverspar: We are expert finders of stuff in SL.
Resident: it's okay thanks anyway

Frilly Forceme

2011-11-24T08:05:00.000Z

I thought I best take the plunge and get writing. I dislike it when folks say they been too busy with this and that to write anything for their blog. I don't actually believe it. It's usually another reason. Typically, it's because they have nothing to write about.

I have tho been the opposite... I have had tons and tons to write about. Every time I start to get a thread in my head which is more or less half-hourly, I think to myself, "No I can't write about this, no I can't write about that." And I have ended up not being able to write about anything. Well that's not the way I like to be, I feel shut up in the face of diplomacy and tact. Mouth zipped and eyes shut.

Forceme SIlverspar breaks out of her body-bag.

I wanna write about The Adult Hub and how I have been spending my last week and a bit. I wanna write about this - I dunno how I can even explain it - it is like a vision, no it's OK I am not la-la. But it is visionary, it's like a projection into the future to see how things will pan out. I see things happening around me, I see things that will deffo work, things that will deffo not work. And how I am dealing with the things that I can't keep shut about.

For those who are not aware The Adult Hub is a set of 5 sims designed to be LL's entry points into Adult land. Think of a cross... the centre sim (Where LL lands its n00b) is the one that I am responsible for. The superb building itself was designed and created by someone else so I am having to fit my workings into her design. That's great, it seems to be working well so far. The four surrounding sims are the four main areas of Adult life where people pool to via the centre sim depending on their interests.

There is a whole huge team of talented and dedicated people behind the sims that could make this into something that could stun the Virtual World. I feel very honoured and privileged to have the opportunity that I have given to me by Serjourn who pays the bill for the 5 sims.

Five sims is a lot of money for it to not work...

I think the first thing I noticed was that it is hard to describe what I want to those labelled as content creators or scripters or builders and it turn out what I expected it to turn out like. That is to say, if I say to my sub BB "Hey Sweetness, please do me this and then make me that so it does this. Thanks!" ninety-nine times out of hundred he will know exactly what I want, why I want it and how I want it done and I have spent precisely 10 seconds telling him what I want making or doing or whatever. Ta-dahhh. I suppose it has taken 3 years to get to get to that stage but it was something I had seriously taken for granted. Of course these people of not subs, let alone mine, but it is very time consuming to be doing all the frilly bits. This whole experience of working with others has really highlighted how tuned in my communication with BB is.

The next thing that struck me is, that I learnt an awful lot working at Bonanza. I know the context is very different, but actually the work is exactly the same. It's about 1) Making people feel welcome 2) Pinpointing personally that person to engage them and make them feel special and wanted 3) Quickly letting visitors know that we have something worth stopping for. 4) Providing that value to the visitors. There ya go, recipe for any successful club, sim, playground or church. And why the clubs who think "Hello " and that's it shouldn't be surprised when their club fails.

And lastly... My complete ineptitude in sharing my view with others when I know what they are doing won't work. I am gonna have to work on this part, deffo. I've got a safety value at the moment which seems to be working, mostly, but it's not very effective for my part, it does me no favours nor I am guessing the value. Ever heard of metal fatigue? Uh huh. So, goal for next few weeks is either shut the 'uck up Forceme about what other people are doing, or learn to be diplomatic and nice and kind and frilly when I can see what someone is doing ain't gonna work.

Hmmm

2011-11-12T00:52:00.002Z

[16:38] Lucky Dip - Rabbit Hutch whispers: Forceme Silverspar takes a chance on the lucky dip!
[16:38] Lucky Dip - Rabbit Hutch whispers: Forceme Silverspar wins a Dead Rabbit.
[16:38] Lucky Dip - Rabbit Hutch owned by Romey Damiano gave you 'Dead Rabbit' ( http://slurl.com/secondlife/Colorado/219/88/944 ).
[16:38] Lucky Dip - Rabbit Hutch whispers: Congratulations Forceme Silverspar - Enjoy your prize!

Hmm thanks for me dead rabbit, like. I will do my BEST to try and enjoy him.

Forceme Silverspar prods him sadly, Are you deffo dead me old fella?

First snow scene of the year

2011-11-12T00:19:00.000Z

November 11th and we have snow already! Aww I can't help it, it is the kid in me. I love it! Sod the lag, sod the grumpy Scrooges who moan and whine about the falling snow and glittery bits. Something still magical and exciting about snow and everything else that the snow brings.

It's true, I don't live in a place that get weighted down and badly affected by snow, so I can still enjoy the special times when it does arrive and changes my entire view from the windows. It takes away all the borders, covers everything with a fresh glistening clean whiteness and hides all the bits best not seen.

Hmm. And the men get to write their names over and over again. Has someone made that yet in SL?

The Adult Hub

2011-11-10T12:29:00.001Z

The gossip-mongerers, politicians and Forum hos have been having a feast day with this one for some time. I have made a deliberated point to stay well outta all that stuff. I have retracted and retracted myself until I am quietly minding me own business and letting the stuff go on around me because there really is no point in wasting my energy or vibes involving myself in other people's ego trips and sore selfdoms.

The LL sponsored Adult Hub is now in place and half built by some manic and talented builders who have been working away night and day to get things up and running. The Adult Hub consists of 5 sims.

Zindra Prime (Central Hub) which is my responsibility
Zindra North (BDSM) which is Lexi Lock's responsibility
Zindra East (CaRP/RP) responsibility is yet to be announced
Zindra South (Gor/Medieval/Historic) which is Papa Gibbs responsibility
Zindra West (Sex) which is Ali Reiter's responsibility

There is a whole team of folks lead by Serjourn Daxter who have made this happen. To date, I ain't seeing LL announce what they have done but there ya go, no surprise there then. LL have finally realised, somewhat a bit late I feel, how important the Adult content matters to their well being. Forceme Silverspar rolls her eyes a bit. Anyone remember then saying Adult was just 2% of their income? Ha ha ha.

The Central Hub is not a commercial area, and won't ever be. It is the nub of help, support and advice for anyone entering the Adult world. The other four sims tho are selling vendors for advertising. Zindra North is almost full having nearly sold out of rental space and it is not even open yet so if ya interested in renting a space, get running, FAST. If ya have a place/product/service ya wanna advertise on the CaRP/RP/Gor/Medieval/Historic/Sex hubs, make ya way there, ladies and gentlemen. And, if ya wanna move ya private estate sim across to the Hub Zone to join it on to one of the arms... Then contact, Serj or Ravena Decuir or one of the sim managers. Or anyone else who is involved... like I said, there is a huge team behind this.

A little intro video to give you a taste of the Adult Hub.

Day of the Dead

2011-11-09T19:41:00.000Z

I am not entirely sure how long this place will remain up as the Day of the Dead is celebrated between 1st/2nd November but if ya can get ya lookie-in quickly, it's well worth a visit. Very nicely created.

The cerebration goes back 1000s of years and is mostly enjoyed around the Central to South America areas of the world. Unlike Halloween, this festivity is not mean to be scary or frightening , instead, it is a time to celebrate the dead and respect their status.

Seems to me that the amount of Tequila drank and sugar eaten around this celebration would guarantee this to be a real fun time of the year! Do visit GO HERE!

Anyone for a Full English?

2011-11-08T18:09:00.001Z

I am in a quiet mood so I thought it a good idea to loiter in our skybox and do some inventory sorting. And while I was there, surely amongst my 38000 items, there would be a new toy I could dust off and throw out that might be fun.

My eye got caught on this little item...

Hmm errr what's a "Full English *uck"? Acquired on Sunday 8th August 2008. My brain is going a bit and I couldn't for the life of me remember what this thing was. So I rezzed it out, I had to see what it was.

No, seriously? C'mon now. Who would think having sex on an oversize plate of greasy Full English Breakfast was a good thing idea? Surely it can't be a sex bed in a plate? Uh huh. It was.

Forceme Silverspar tries it out a bit.

Forceme Silverspar walks away scratching her head about this one.

Blink blink blink

2011-11-06T16:35:00.000Z

I know I mentioned it when I first became Master's but that was a long time ago now and as people were surprised that I spent a lot of my time with him crying, I thought I would bring the eye issue up again.

One of the first things Master did when we got hooked up together was to buy us matching eyes. I thought it very special at the time but as years have gone by, I find it err awesome now.

Today, as I zoomed in to our faces, and looked at our eyes in SL, my eyes began to sting in FL. Blink blink blink. Don't cry. Blink blink blink. Bugger.

Damn it, if tears didn't roll down my cheeks. I get overcome by something. I can't explain it, stop it, reason with it, I just have to accept it as part of me, part of us. Cry cry cry.

Men? Are ya listening?!

2011-11-05T11:37:00.004Z

I mentioned before how this group chat has me in hysterics... they do really. But this time, it is a very good example of teaching through fun time. The Village Slave Hunt Prey Group are supposed to be all women, mostly they are, I do spot the odd fella who is pretending.

I never ever realised how funny women were before I was in this group. I never seen this side of a group of females before, normally I just see the bitching and back stabbing.

Men, now listen up here, this is a really really really good lesson. Not only in RP but also in the female anatomy and the working of sex. Especially... Forceme Silverspar coughs a bit... especially if ya don't have much experience of doing sex. Err for whatever errr reason.

Resident: Is it just me, or does anybody else get cramps when a guy RPs cervix sex
Resident2: hehehheheh
Resident3: Lolololol
Resident4: hahahahahaha
Resident5: lmao
Resident6: as in when they tslk sbout penetrating it int othe uterus? Yes
Resident7: that might be taking rp a bit too far.. ahahah
Resident8: ... I was like "whatever, dude, have you EVER had sex in your whole frickin' life?"
Resident9: show me a pred that doesn't have the ability to rp cervix sex and I'll eat my silks
Resident8: I had one guy try to RP thrusting *through* my cervix into my uterus ....
Resident10: omg shuush
Resident11: it annoys me sometimes lol
Resident12: not advisable
Resident: lol
Resident13: lmao
Resident8: gah, thanks chatlag for scrambling my posts ....
Resident12: anatomically possible
Resident5: lmao some peeps have active imaginations and some have stupid imaginations...
Resident12: whats in it for YOU???
Resident9: they have no idea!! lol they seem to think it enhances sex lmao
Resident7:that would majorly hurt..
Resident11 its like they want to literally split you in half lol.. its like.. god.. enthusiastic much?
Resident10: i am curiouse about what predators talk in GC OO
Resident12: Where's my motivation?
Resident8: yes, it would hurt ... like, hellaciously much ....
Resident11: rofl
Resident5: lmao hitting the cervix can, but penetrating is just stupid
Resident8: unless his d*ck is as thin as a pencil, perhaps
Resident14: roflmao
Resident8: oh ffs I'm just not going to post any more ... wtf is wrong with SL?
Resident12: Sounds like a whole new fetish Resident11
Resident11: you just want to give them a sex ed lesson right there .. this is the cervix.. YOU DONT FIT HERE.. it hurst when you bump it.. now moving on please
Resident7: so you said.. yes.. give it to me..?
Resident15: laughs
Resident8: lol Amosa yes ....
Resident7: lagg
Forceme Silverspar: You lot are sooo funny :)
Resident12: But you can slide up on over it if you go easy
Resident8: ... "Now remember, if you *ever* want to get some from a girl more than once, *don't* bump into that bit ..."
Resident11 rofl.. well you do stretch to their size evenutally
Resident: ok, i just emoted bleeding and passing out, i wonder if he will get the hint. Actually was kind of ok with the RP up to that point.
Resident11: its like.. putting cum in us is not enough they wave us spewing it from our freaking ears and nose
Resident14: haha
Resident8: ROFL
Resident5 likes to barf when the rp gets bad
Resident11: i never understood that.. i even rp they are tight and the biggest i have ever had.. and they stiLL go for my cervix.. i just ignore it and move on.. its such a mood breaker

Have ya got that fellas? Don't RP going through a cervix with ya love poker. It just ain't do-able, however long and hard and thick (Or errr thin) ya shooter is in your fantasy mind. If ya do, then know subs are just laughing at ya and know you don't have a clue about penetration.

Forceme sees yet more sheep

2011-11-04T11:05:00.005Z

I was out paying a bill over at BfA for a stall I have there... (Who says the in-world mall is dead?) when I got an IM. I was in a playful mood, it doesn't happen often.

Resident: hello
Forceme Silverspar: 'ello.
Resident: nice
Resident: you like animals?

Forceme Silverspar figures that sounds like a foreigner speaking English.

Forceme Silverspar: They're cute eh?
Resident: yes
Resident: you ar too

No e's on end of word? Deffo a foreigner.

Forceme Silverspar: Thanks
Resident: wath you like to do in thes place?

See? Foreigners very often don't understand the use of the silent e on end of words. I wish those learning English would remember the Great Vowel Shift we had in the Middle Ages and understand the importance that the 'magic e' has on our language.

Forceme Silverspar: I like to watch the animals, they remind me of my farm I use to have.
Resident: cool
Resident: wow nice ass

Like the 850,000 other cool pixel arses in SL.

Forceme Silverspar: Yours is cool too!
Resident: :)
Resident: com

Arh the no e clue again.

Forceme Silverspar: Com? Is that like dot.com?
Resident: lol
Resident: sorry my english is bad
Resident: but you ar smart girl
Resident: you can understand me :)
Resident: come

Forceme is a sucker for an order so I err come.

Forceme Silverspar: Aww aren't the sheep sooooo sweet!
Resident: how this shit work?
Forceme Silverspar: I used to hug and cuddle my lambs.
Resident: mmm

Steady fella, just hold on tightly to that expression of emotion.

Forceme Silverspar: Aww look at him, he is so soft and warm and just bahhhhhhhs so sweetly.
Resident: yes

Forceme Silverspar turns around to see some abominable gangly thing.

Forceme Silverspar gasps and runs away from the sight of that!
Resident: you like this place
Forceme Silverspar: Anyway, what did ya want?
Forceme Silverspar: Was there something here you wanted me to see?
Resident: im dont know
Resident: you ar hot
Resident: can you sith on this

Forceme Silverspar starts humming the tune to Star wars, The Revenge of the Sith.

Forceme Silverspar: Well, I shall carry on looking around the farm then. If you see anything good, let me know!
Forceme Silverspar: Sith on what?
Resident: come
Resident: wow
Resident: sorry
Resident: there is no animal here
Forceme Silverspar: Aww no animals up here to look at? :(
Forceme Silverspar cries and cries.
Forceme Silverspar: I am going to go find some animals to make me feel better.
Resident: ok
Resident: can im wach
Forceme Silverspar: You want to watch me watching the animals?
Resident: do you **** animals?
Forceme Silverspar gasps out loud, What are you talking about?!
Resident: ok bye
Resident: kiss
Resident: stay good
Forceme Silverspar: Byebye!

Forceme Silverspar bahhhhhs

Is this really a County Court Judge?

2011-11-02T21:23:00.002Z

Soooo, I am chatting with a err girl who tells me about the guns she has. This gun culture lark is right out of me sphere... so I ask me questions as I do. What do ya shoot? To me, that question means, do you shoot targets, rabbits, rats? No. Did not mean that to her... to her it meant "What gun do you shoot with?" So I got given the details of the guns she has and I was kinda blinking a bit coz as I Google the makes she rolls out they look like 'ucking great BIG and serious guns to me.

She then goes on to talk about her knife collection. I think one had the words Gut Wretcher in is make/model description. Are ya getting the gist? I must say it was very interesting listening to her stories and way of life in the errr country.

There was a pause in the convo and a while later she said, I paraphrase - 'I just watched a YouTube video and I hardly managed to get through it.' And this didn't go with what I had been listening to from her gun and knife stories not a few minutes before. What possibly could be on YouTube that she found so offensive/hard/ewwwy/pukey that she could hardly watch it all. Well I just had to ask! So she passed me the link. When I first saw it last night, it had 363 views. Now it is hitting 620,000.

If you have not seen this video before... WARNING: Contains video is graphic, long and involves a minor.

I could understand how she found it hard to get through. If I was to listen to the news outlets, this fella is a Judge called William Adams who is in Aransas The fact that he is apparently a judge, has one point to address, but let's ignore that one for now. Let's just pretend he is some fella who lives down the road. And the girl on this video, apparently the judge cum fella's daughter, is 16 at time of filming.

This video is *in my opinion* enough to get this fella sacked and thrown into prison for a long time, that is if he survives long enough to get to court. Oppps I forgot, people are innocent until proven guilty in a court of law. I read on the internet there are some serious and many life threats against him.

And while they are there throwing him in jail, send in the mother too. No sorry, no. I don't run with the idea that the mother was just under the same pressure and and received the same abuse as the daughter. In fact, I would say the mother was the only person in the world who could have intervened in the abuse and she didn't. She took the belt off him so she sould beat the child herself, true, but let him tooodle off to somewhere to get a second belt. She didn't say "No whipping of Hillary while you are angry" to him. She didn't call the police. She decided *for whatever reason* not to. The mother is the one who... hang on where in Aransas, Texas right? ... the mother is the one who tells her daughter to "You turn over like a sixteen year old and take it like a grown woman, turn over!" FS blinks a bit. Is that what they teach the women in Texas? That grown women turn over and accept a whippin' if they are disobedient? Holy crapperoni. I mean seriously, is that the culture there?

I knew I wanted to blog about this video, but I wasn't sure exactly I could fit it in any kinda context that wouldn't have people screaming I was linking this behaviour with BDSM.

So... let me categorically say then, that I know this video is not about BDSM. But.. I wanna just mention a few things.

1. This is a good illustration of why do you don't do dom mode if ya angry or pissed. Physical/real or not, it's just not a good idea. Having a mental whippin' is just as bad.

2. "I'll beat you into submission" Yes, you can beat people into submission, by the whip, by emotional pressure, by denying the needs of life, by mental abuse but there is nothing sweeter than that submission given freely eh? It is why freely given submission is such a valuable commodity. And I happen to believe, quite rarely truly found.

3. "You caused this" [The whiping] ie the father was relinquishing responsibility and blaming the girl that he was whipping her. It was the girl's fault, her father was whipping her in his anger frenzy. This reminds me of the dom, who we all know so well, who blamed the sub for making him release to the world all her alts by using RZ on Fetlife.com because she got him mad. Errr derrrr.

I have been guilty of this myself but in a different context... thinking that the trouble *usually state of mind* that I was in was because someone else had put me there. It was someone's fault they made me angry, they made me jealous, they made me upset. I think this is one of my hugest growth areas since I been in SL... Understanding this fact is probably one of my biggest healing areas too. I own my emotions, they are mine. My responsibility for them. That fella whipping his 16 year old daughter? He is responsible for how he feels and what he is doing. And I hope he pays for it.

This is another RLV no...

2011-11-02T09:54:00.000Z

I have to deal with this rumourly-concern a bit and my aim for this post is to perhaps alleviate some concerns people coming in new to RLV and SL. I start off with a fact and go from there.

FACT: It is impossible for RLV to steal money from your account.

Can RLV steal your money? No. No no no no and another big fat No. Ticking the enable RLV box on your viewer cannot automatically allow other people to get money from your account.

However many times you hear that people have got products out there that forces money out of you using RLV without you knowing anything about it, the answer is still no. Even if you ask around and they swear on their grand mother's grave that RLV can steal your money without you knowing about it, the answer is still no.

This no relies on the fact that people can't steal money if consent is given to take money. If you give your consent for an object to take money from your account, then it ain't stealing. I am afraid consent is limited to a big gate-keeper of consent - either yes or no in terms of SL consent and money. GRANT or DENY

Grant = I consent

Deny = I don't consent

You need press "Grant" to this dialogue box...

...to give consent. There is a secondary amateur-like consent level in terms of scripting to say "Well I consent to you taking out L$200 a week only but no more" and so taking anything more than L$200 could be considered stealing. But two things...

1) This is nothing to do with RLV anyway; taking money out of account is standard LSL.
2) The money-limiting script success relies on the scripter's integrity (har-har) not to be a pig and/or just normal scripting ability. Some very nice and well adjusted people who can script can also very easily make mistakes. The techies tell me these are called bugs :)

A sub might have a verbal arrangement with their dom to not take out more than L$200 a week, and they got to hope and trust they stick to that consent and if the dom defaults on his trust meter well, the sub might have cause for ARing the dom. Maybe, I think... perhaps. Dunno.

Remember... The process of taking the money is absolutely nothing whatsoever to do with RLV. There are these kinda products...

https://marketplace.secondlife.com/p/Financial-Sub-ATM/630874

https://marketplace.secondlife.com/p/Bad-Word-Pay-20-Boxed-DEMO/1775556

https://marketplace.secondlife.com/p/CoC-RR-PiggyBank-Plugin-Transfer/2449876

They have various claims about RLV and most are very accurate but ya have to examine the language used in the adverts and understand what it really means rather than just glimpse and see the word RLV and say "RLV can take my money without my consent"

What might be RLV is that the object asking for permission is locked on to the avatar using RLV, or it might be positioning the avatar in a certain position using RLV but the money taking/money consenting is a completely different issue and is certainly not RLV. If you don't want to risk someone taking money out of your account, RLV or not, then don't give consent by pressing the Grant button on the big yellow box that comes up on ya screen.

Simple.

Techies are more than welcome to comment to correct, add or take away anything I have said here.

Halloween Nights

2011-11-01T06:09:00.000Z

I hope ya all had a Spookkkkky and fun Halloween, mine was generally quiet this year. Still, I had fun on a photoshoot.

Untrustworthy scripter

2011-10-31T00:23:00.003Z

I got this notice in my The Village group

If you are wearing a certain type of relay system for your RLV you may receive a message when you land on the sim saying it's not safe. It's totally safe just remove your relay and use a different one until LL's gets that fixed for us. Any questions just message a guard. Have fun and Happy Halloweenie!
Hugs,
Bella

Eh?

Err... was like, what the hell. I thought two things... either The Village was not safe, or some 'ucker who can script is being a bastard. Then I felt sad, on both counts. I have a ROPE class every week at The Village and I know my group members attend that as well as The Village people, (FS grins a bit) and if for some reason (I still suspect RZ stuff is out and about) The Village was being subversive in any way, I would be disappointed that I had been even remotely involved. And if it was some geek who can script doing this out of spite and revenge, and using the RLV platform to do it on, then I am disappointed someone has tainted RLV by using its users as a mechanism for their revenge. Who is this person and God help me, I hope its not someone I am involved with. I ran past all me friends and associates capable of doing this wondering if they would do such a thing.

Anyhow, any questions just message a guard? Hell I sure do have questions. (Sorry, consider this class stuff)

Forceme Silverspar: Hey :) ********** ********* ******. What's the relay and what's it saying about the sim being unsafe?
Guard: [14:18] *******: [14:18] Dahlia's multirelay 1.7: Warning: Caladan Island may not be safe for your avatar with RLV and we are teleporting you back to your previous location.
[14:18] Dahlia's multirelay 1.7: @tpto:237477.500000/255213.500000/67.865280=force
Forceme Silverspar: Ewwww
Forceme Silverspar: How odd.
Guard: Yeah
Forceme Silverspar: I wonder what they are designating as 'not safe'. How very strange.
Guard: Um apparently it's someone who was banned earlier for having a child like avi they wouldn't fix so this is their way of paying us back I guess. lol
Guard: People are odd.

Hmm... Dahlia's multi relay? Never heard of a Dahlia. That's a relief.

New notice from The Village...

She has personally confirmed it has been bugged, she purposely put a bugged script in it that force TP's and gives out incorrect information. The creator is Dahlia Orfan and several SL abuse reports have been filed to have her little project stopped immediately. Please feel free to contact a guard with any questions. For now if you have the relay system we highly suggest you delete it as it forces you to tp back to your former location.
Thank you,
The Village Staff

Hmm, so what's the truth? Revengeful geek or unsafe Village?

Go to the source, Forceme. OK.

[15:44] Forceme Silverspar: Have ya really done what The Village say ya have done or is it gossip?
[15:45] Dahlia Orfan: about what ?
[15:46] Forceme Silverspar: About bugging a relay so anyone wearing your relay at The Village gets told it is unsafe and gets force TPed out.
[15:46] Dahlia Orfan: yes :)
[15:47] Forceme Silverspar: That's kinda mean ain't it? Guess they hurt you.
[15:47] Dahlia Orfan: they AR-ed me for ageplay
[15:47] Dahlia Orfan: with an avatar of 1.99m (?!) because my breasts were too small
[15:48] Forceme Silverspar: Did LL punish you?
[15:48] Dahlia Orfan: no
[15:49] Dahlia Orfan: here is the message: Warning: Caladan Island may not be safe for your avatar with RLV and we are teleporting you back to your previous location.
[15:49] Forceme Silverspar: And your relay is your revenge?
[15:49] Dahlia Orfan: yes its a funny revenge, i could not imagine that that could disturb them :)
[15:51] Forceme Silverspar: You don't think it would disturb them to lose the traffic and have rumors spread about them that it is an unsafe sim?
[15:52] Dahlia Orfan: they should thank me if it is true : they will have less lags :) frankly, if they could just apologize, i would change that; but even that its too much for them, and Loretta (the sim owner) is particularly arrogant, so really i dont care
[15:53] Forceme Silverspar: Not sure you've done yaself any favors, but I expect you know that.

I dunno which of my two options would have been worse, but still... I believe what I say there, I don't think pulling a stunt like this has done her any favours. I notice on MarketPlace she has tons and tons of stuff for sale. She uses innocent people ie people who are wearing her relay, to gain her revenge on a sim. I, for one, will be actively discouraging anyone from touching anything made by her as a result of her mean and bastardly use of her scripting skills.

Buy/get your relays from reputable people who have integrity and an ounce of decency. Oh, and a proper sense of humour. This is not a funny revenge.

Bahhhhh

2011-10-30T17:24:00.013Z

Forceme Silverspar bahhhhhhs. So fella and his errr slave - I am guessing she will call herself a slave as she says in her profile she her fella's property and says she rarely leaves IC and she talks in third person - comes in. Seen them about a few times and ya know, nice friendly pair. Chatted a few times.

*****: good da all. :)

Forceme Silverspar: 'ello
********: Good Evening/Morning Sir
***** pulls his girl on his lap.
*****: up here.
*****: Evening.
*** moves forward a little confused and kneels beside the chair
*****: how aOhh look at the machine.
***** pulls the girl on his lap.
*** peers over
Forceme Silverspar: Hiya ***, good to see ya again.
*** snuggles close to her Master and smiles over at Forceme "Hi...thank you, it's good to see you as well."
*** "Hello, ********...Bouncing box."
*****: she is a bit sore tonight.
Forceme Silverspar: Ouch.
Forceme Silverspar: Wish I was.
*** rests her head against her Masters shoulder and remains still, her eyes watching the O/others as she listens
Bouncing Box: Hello ***** and ***
********: Hello there

Forceme Silverspar tries to understand something. Forceme Silverspar tries to have that switch flicked by someone who will actually tells/explains her something she doesn't understand. Forceme Silverspar never gives up in trying to further her understanding of something she doesn't just get. Forceme Silverspar is always on the quest to see something form someone else's point of view especially when it is something that makes no sense to her. So... Forceme Silverspar asks.

Forceme Silverspar: Why do ya do that O/o thing ***?
*****: hiya box.
*** blushes but responds softly "Capital for Dominant lowercase for submissive...i...i wasn't sure, so i didnt want to make a mistake."

Hmm I didn't ask what it meant, I asked why she did it. And is a bit cross that yet again, no one can tell me why they continue to do this 1992 behaviour pattern.

*****: ahh.

*****: Welll it is hard to tell.
*** nods her head, grateful for her Masters comment
Forceme Silverspar: Does using a capital make a dom a dom? Must be a pretty crap dom if a capital letter makes them feel better.

So come on then... tell me why you think it is a good thing that you carry on this idea that using a capital letter for a dom turns a dim-dom into a dab-dom.

*****: Just protocal.
***'s eyes widen in surprise feeling extremely uncomfortable she lowers her eyes

Forceme Silverspar rolls her eyes. No thought not. It's OK for her to bother me eyes by using such ill considered behaviour and I have to smile and nod but when I ask why, that makes her feel EXTREMELY uncomfy she doesn't have to smile and nod but instead she has no qualms about gobbing off and saying so.

I happen to be proud of my D/s actions and can explain EVERY single tiny weeny piddly thing I do and if ever I was asked or questioned as to why I do something within my D/s life, I would be able to explain why. Even if it just "...because Master says so." Maybe that's it? Maybe her fella tells her to do it?

Forceme Silverspar: That your idea ***** she does that?
*****:No but I don't see the issue with it.

Not that then.

Forceme Silverspar: Me neither, she chooses her own protocols, which is kinda funny.

So now we have a err slave who behaves as she wants to and is unwilling or unable explain why? And it is true, it really makes no odds to me what she does, couldn't care less, it doesn't really really hurt me eyes, but it does annoy me when people do stuff like sheep. I am beginning to understand that most people are just sheep. There. I said it. Accept that Forceme and you will be happier. Forceme Silverspar sings, Bahhhhhhhh Bahhhhhhh mouton noir, as-tu de la laine….Oui monsieur, oui monsieur, trois poches pleine. Une pour mon maître... and trails off into doing some mumbling.

*****: Something bothering you tonight forcee?
Forceme Silverspar: No, why you ask?
*****: no reason. You just seem a touchy tonight.

Err, that sentence makes no sense. "No reason. You just seem a touchy tonight" Me seemingly being touchy tonight is the reason he asks if something was bothering me.

Forceme Silverspar: Not touchy, just wondered about the O/o thing. And don't understand still why, but hey, not my business. If a dom needs a capital letter to feel dom or a sub needs a lower case to feel sub, then err hmm great, I guess.

What's wrong with that? It's a statement of fact innit? Subs use it to make it be known that they are respecting the dom's position by allocating them a capital letter - wooohoooo, yippppeeee this girl thinks i am a dom because she uses capital letter for me yippppppeee! - and reinforcing their sub status by allocating themselves a lower case letter - wooohoo! No honestly... I find this whole thing sooooo 'ucking bizarre and I am gob-smacked that people go around with their heads somewhere in some la-la fantasy where they think a capital letter or not can in fact depict the greatness of being in a state of submission or domination. I have always wondered how they would represent "O/o" in first life. How is that done? Forceme Silverspar does some funny mouth, tongue and lip movements. That is also why I am convinced O/o is solely a text-based roleplay thing. I wonder if the fella realises she is just acting? I bet not.

***** shakes his h ead.
*****: lets to.
*****: go.
***: "Yes Master."

Forceme Silverspar blinks a bit. Err... what happened there? Have I just got a pissy dom on my hands? One that runs?

Option 1: "'uck off Forceme, mind ya own business"
Option 2: "Let's discuss your view Forceme"
Option 3: "Do you realise you've upset my slave, Forceme?"
Option 4: [Ignores/mutes Forceme]
Option 5: "I find your behaviour and attitude rude and arrogant so we will be leaving your toxic company"
Option 6: "Can't be arsed with you Forceme"
Option 7: Run

He walks 19.5 m away and calls out like a clucking chicken...

*****: I despise rudeness RL or Sl

This is from the fella who has this in his profile... "And oh. The reason i wear a Masters tag is simply to piss you off. :)." How is going out purposefully to piss people off, not rude? Arrh people are so full of inconsistencies. Bahhhhhhhh bahhhhhhhhhhhhh bahhhhhhhhhhhhh.

Ya know, I might start up a BDSM debating society. Not a discussion, not a class, not a wishy-washy smile and nod story time with mother event, but real proper hard debate. Where two opposing beliefs are argued and debated. Gawd, I aaaaaaaaaaaache for that.

I do think it is sad that this ex-friendly pair are now sore and pissed. I was trying to understand better. Forceme Silverspar sighs a bit. That's it. No more questions. I am setting myself a goal to not ask one question, not one single question out side of Master/BB class time. I CAN do it!

Get responsible, eh?

2011-10-27T23:16:00.003+01:00

When I get a few things in me space that don't make any sense beyond the stupidity of others, yet kinda feels fuzzy about the edges about whether I am right or wrong, I dooooooo try and shrug and smile and nod... but there comes a point when I am sorry, I just have to open me mouth.

This post is about RLV and responsibility. And it is about RLV and consent.

It started quite a time ago now when I got into a convo in a group chat and got directed to a blog post where someone was pissin' and whinin' about RLV traps and thinking it was the land owners fault that subs were being trapped in RLV traps. No... got that? No. No way, Jose! That's the bottom line of things, OK? I did comment, and comment again... when it was argued back at me that I was wrong... I found it hilarious that I was accused of being a troll so my last comment was never published. I get it! If ya losing a point of debate through the sheer logic and sense of someone else, just call that person with the logic and sense a troll and ya a winner!

I'll put it here, coz I don't really like my words being wasted. You'll get the gist of the whole blog post and the comments from this one comment.

First, you fail to answer my simple question... and it is simple... it is a yes or no answer. I will repost it here to remind you..

Are you saying that every land owner has a responsibility to ensure/check/test/examine that all RLV-enabled visitors who enter their RLV-trapped land knows English and can read any signs that are put out and fully understands the risks taken and consequences had with RLV before they are allowed on their land in order for it to be informed consent?

Second, I have no second actually. If you answer yes to that question, then clearly you don't live in the same SL as I do. And if you say no, then your argument and anything else here that you have blabbed on about, including dragging out the past and sticking knives in rather than having an intelligent debate, and including the way Dave manages his land, matters not. Why? Because if it not the land owner's responsibility to ensure/check/test/examine that all RLV-enabled visitors who enter their RLV-trapped land knows English and can read any signs that are put out and fully understands the risks taken and consequences had with RLV, then it is the sub's primarily, and the Mistress' secondary.

I maintain hard and fast that if a sub logs in using RLV and wears a relay then she is ultimately responsible for whatever shite comes her way. There is this one big huge massive yes of consent, the second she log in with RLV. She does consent when she puts her stuff in her #RLV folder. She does consent to having her relay open so she can get trapped by God know's what evil minds are creating out there... Big huge level one consent. There are sub-levels of consent which involve trust and which I will come onto in a bit.

This blaming others is like blaming Ford for making the car that you knock down a child with. Or like blaming the barman for you getting drunk.

I agree there might be a duty of care.. ie I trust that Ford will make brakes and steering that work. or I trust the bar man is not slipping me Vokda in my coke but I see no equivalent in RLV, really. I suppose I could say "I trust RLV code isn't secretly spying on me" or "I trust RLV code isn't monitoring all the accounts I log into so it knows somewhere somehow all my alts" or "I trust RLV code doesn't keylog me". But I seen no duty of care issue in the code itself with regard to the purpose of its use in world. ie... subs consent to use it to give their control over to other things or other people. I have not seen nor heard of any evidence whatsoever that Marine is nothing but up front and has used integrity with the code.

There are sub-levels of consent... and the responsibility/consent/trust factors do wobble off the centre a little bit.

Let me give you four scenarios to explain what I mean.

No1. I am a brand new sub who has no experience of RLV and has fallen deeply and insanely in love with my new master and he tells me to log in with RLV, to wear this relay, because "It is really cool and it just means I can lock on that collar of mine because I never want it coming off your pretty neck." I too thinks that's a cool idea, I consent and I dutifully go and do what my master tells me to and before I know it, he is doing all sorts of RLV stuff to me that I did not realise was possible and did not consent for him to do.

No2. I am a solo sub and an experienced RLV user and love playing around the various RLV sims that have wonderful traps and gizmos for me to go enjoy. The toys have timers on them and I expressly consent to being trapped for 30 minutes. After 2 hours I am still trapped because for some techy reason the toy's timer doesn't work and my only option is to cheat out of RLV if I don't want to spend the rest of my time there.

No3. My master and I are experienced RLV users, we have spent a lot of time enjoying the pleasures RLV can bring. We use it together on the understanding that I consent to him having that control over me but under no circumstances ever is he to limit my IM communications. I state it as one of my limits. One day tho, I piss him off and to punish me, he shuts down my IM.

No4. My master and I enjoy the risk and uncertainty of trawling through SL so with my consent I wear my relay wide open and on auto accept I get trapped on a toy that doesn't offer me a time/person release but just keeps me locked forever until I decide to log in without RLV.

In these examples, we see a number of variables in terms of trust, consent, responsibility, relationship dynamics and code of ethics however, the ultimate responsibility for all these predicaments, I believe sits with the sub.

Toy creators, toy sellers, land owners, doms, might have their fingers in a few of those pies but really, listen up subs, if you decide to log in using RLV and ya wear a relay, then you are responsible for what happens to you as a result of doing that. I like Emberrs idea, and I don't think it would be impossible for the viewer techie geeky whotnot people to get wanna-be RLV users to have to OK a link before they can tick the RLV box in their viewer. That link that will bullet point in 10 simple sentences the end-stop of what RLV can do to you. I would say, this would turn vague consent into semi-informed consent which is not as good as informed consent but a bit better than what we have now and would go part way in making sure the subs who use it know they shouldn't be pissin' and whinin' when RLV allows something they ain't consenting to happen to them.

Misplaced trust is a 'ucker, but nothing you can blame on RLV.

I kinda have a part 2 to this post which I will start to write right now... coz I have had enough of this one too... It's rumour and gossip to do with RLV taking money from people.

Życie mnie Srebrny drzewca

2011-10-25T10:02:00.004+01:00

I went out on a MISSION! I very desperately need someone who speaks Polish (And Russian would be a bonus, oh and Old Russian would be a Billy-Bob Bonus) and English so after weeks and weeks of asking in my own group if anyone does, I decided to change tactics. If the Poles won't come to me, then I will go to the Poles.

I had ventured out a bit before, but I put little effort in and got little success out; no surprise there then, eh? This time, I was determined to feel the warm glow of success in me bones.

I wore sexy, I spoke sexy, I looked sexy and thought if I can't get my own way by being the normal Force, then I wouldn't be adverse to me using me wily charms to get my own way.

Step 1. Use Search and use Polish word for "Welcome" - Witamy

Step 2. Pick a place with words that I recognise might be friendly. informacje, help, campfire, Polak, karaoke, mapa polskich miejsc. No idea what the last three words meant but what the hell. I took a chance.

Step 3. TP in and stay very still. Oh so very still. Ya never know what the scores on the doors are in these foreign parts. Especially when ya don't know the lingo. I jest, but it has an element of truth. When I do my class on protocols, I bring up this subject of different cultures do things different ways and what's OK for one, is not OK for the other. I was reminded of this as I stood there and took in a 100% Polish sim full of people.

Step 4: Cross me fingers and make it known that I don't understand a single word other that witamy.

Step 5: Reply supa-friendly and supa-courteously and supa-simply to any half baked English replies I might get. Oh and giggle sexily a lot.

Step 6: Say how much I love the Polish culture to any IMs I might get.

Step 7: Giggle and thank any IMs I might get telling me how sexy my avatar is.

Step 8: Decide to accept any voice chats offers that come my way because speaking English comes way before writing English in the typical adult and non native English people are usually more confident to speak than write in the first instance.

Step 9: Accept any friendship offers.

Step 10: Accept any invites to go to other Polish places.

Step 11: Have Google Translate handy and be very friendly.

Ta-dahhh! Forceme Silverspar is now fully embraced in the Polish community! Now for the hard work...

BB & I's 3rd anniversary

2011-10-24T10:04:00.002+01:00

I have no idea where time goes... wow, 3 years as my sub. That's longer than a lot of marriages last for. He is, underneath all the D/s stuff, my very loyal, deeply trusted and amazing friend.

Thank you for being mine, my Sweetness XXXX

I took him on a role play tour to some of the spooky bits in SL. Watch our journey!

Forceme Silverspar shakes her fist, a bit

2011-10-22T22:48:00.002+01:00

I got a message through one of me groups...

[11:21] **** ****: the Virtual Worlds Education Roundtable 11:30SLT - 7:30pm UK

http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/BGSU%20Community/54/85/25

Theme: Ok I'm here. What now? - Lets create a list for new educators
Bring Slurls, video links, links to articles, blogs, induction packs, ideas for getting started, PEOPLE/GROUPS to join which are generic of relevant to education and/or your discipline in any VW (not just SL)

Moderator: Little ol me **** ****

I know the context of VWER quite well... I was a warmly welcomed but intermittent attender when it was known as SL Education Roundtable; this was my first experience of the VWER version. This crowd is what I call the academia crew. It is formed form folks from real universities/colleges in the main doing their explorations into this big wide new land of virtual space to explore and settle in, not totally unlike the hoards of Irish, Scottish, German, Italian, Polish and Russian folks that travelled across the pond to USA in 18th and earth 19th Century.

Still... years on from my first experience of this SL crowd, now called Virtual Worlds Education Roundtable (VWER) most of them just don't seem to get what SL is about. They try and recreate FL in SL which is a wicked waste of opportunity, they don't bother mostly with their avies, they don't bother with their profiles and I get the impression that their aim is to operate in SL and they would operate in FL.

I see them mirroring the same difficulties and struggles that the FL doms come into SL with, ie not understanding how to successfully adapt and change present skills and knowledge to working on the new invented platform of a virtual world.

I thought this particular meeting was awful. I IMed the woman leading it after it finished...

Forceme Silverspar: If you are interested in feedback on that session and have 15 misn to spare sometime, do please give me a shout.
**** ****: ok grand
**** ****: will do

I will guarantee this person will not ever ever ever ever in a million years get back to me; shame.

Rez-day lecture

2011-10-20T09:58:00.003+01:00

I am not overly a party type of person so to celebrate my rez-day, I decided a few months ago to do a special lecture instead. A lecture on the most idiotic subject people love to discuss in SL. Slave V submissive. Aww and Embersssss decorated my teaching area for me - what a SURPRISE that was! Forceme Silverspar hugs her tightly, Thank youuu XXXX

Forceme Silverspar: Thanks everyone for coming here to celebrate my rez-day with me by coming to this lecture...
Forceme Silverspar: Yes I called it a lecture and not a class.... very different things.
Forceme Silverspar: "Don't fool yourself into thinking you are a BDSM slave, you are not" is the title for this lecture...
Forceme Silverspar: This special rez-day special lecture has come about because I have for the 4 years that I have been here in Second Life as Foreceme avoided this very idiotic and stupid idea that people can be divided up into subs and slaves.
Forceme Silverspar: I have avoided discussing this subject with the moronic people who think is matters if someone is a sub or a slave and I have *almost* successfully avoided every single what appears to me, almost daily offer to go to a discussion what the difference between a sub and a slave.
Forceme Silverspar: And I have avoided letting this point of popular yet asinine discussion infest any of my classes until someone pushed it into my lap during one of my classes a few months ago and I tossed it quickly into the bin so as not to derail my class, but as I am an expert tosser, I tossed it with a promise...
Forceme Silverspar: A promise that I would share my views on this matter for a one off special event for my rez-day. I tend to keep my word and so here we are.
Forceme Silverspar: The title of this lecture is of course meant excite people's anger and dismay.
Forceme Silverspar: "Don't fool yourself into thinking you are a BDSM slave, you are not". You wouldn't wanna see YET ANOTHER chat on "Difference between a sub and a slave" now would you, surely?
Forceme Silverspar: I chuckle a tiny bit as I hear the imaginary whines and groans of the slaves out there muttering under their breath, "Here Forceme goes again, telling me what I am and what I am not". Errrr yeah. That will be me then.
Forceme Silverspar: Ya came here to hear my views on this matter, perhaps provide a different perspective to view things on and maybe think twice if you use the "slave" title or if a slave comes crawling on her hands and knees proffering all their itty-bitty slave molecules.
Forceme Silverspar: Everyone is entitled to have their views and opinions and I would go to hell and back if it was in the mind to defend the opportunity for people to have and air opinions...
Forceme Silverspar: ...but what is idiotic about the sub/slave discussion is the blinkered and single view of the people who generally take part in them and they OK their statements by prefacing their words by "I think..."
Forceme Silverspar: This allows and validates their right to express their opinions and everyone has to nod and smile at their opinions because they wanna keep respectful and inclusive and tolerant.
Forceme Silverspar: Well YAY for that!
Forceme Silverspar: Except... the thing is... I don't think they are thinking, not thinking at all.
Forceme Silverspar: Their thinking doesn't stop them from expressing sophomoric views.
Forceme Silverspar: I use that word carefully...Sophomoric.
Forceme Silverspar: I use it because when I delve a little with these people, I find mostly ignorance and a lot of naivety.
Forceme Silverspar: I get the impression that they just wanna have some of the cake the next person is eating without understanding what it is is made of.
Forceme Silverspar: They munch it down yummy yummy yummy - me a slave - yummy yummy - slave is me.
Forceme Silverspar: I hear them just regurgitating the same of mouldy crumbs from someone else's plate without even having a notion of what they are meaning. No thinking whatsoever. Let alone... "I think..."
Forceme Silverspar: "I am a slave because I can't say no" or worse still "You a submissive because you have limits".
Forceme Silverspar: Or even worse still,"You are a submissive so you only like sexy stuff" and "I am a slave, I submit my mind".
Forceme Silverspar: And the the king pin of my lecture is this one ... "I am more submissive than you are so I am a slave and you are a submissive."
Forceme Silverspar: So first off, what is a slave? WHAM BAM! Here is idiot slave/sub discussion point number one.
Forceme Silverspar: Is anyone counting how many times I use the word idiot in this lecture?
**** ***: 6
Forceme Silverspar: Hahahaha
Forceme Silverspar: I thought someone would be.
Forceme Silverspar: Lemme take it a step deeper to explain as to why I think it is idiotic.
Forceme Silverspar: A slave is something that anyone fancies it is be.
Forceme Silverspar: And anyone can call themselves a slave if they want to.
Forceme Silverspar: With these variables, "what is a slave?" become a bit of a moot point.
Forceme Silverspar: If I said I was a reincarnation of King Tutankhamen and acting like him, or what if I went around BELIEVING I was God, acting like I was God, people would just smile and nod and call for the men in white coats.
Forceme Silverspar: Is a slave someone who does anything asked of them?
Forceme Silverspar: Is a slave someone who has devolved all control over them?
Forceme Silverspar: Is a slave someone who submits in the mind?
Forceme Silverspar: Is a slave someone who services, sexual and otherwise, someone else?
Forceme Silverspar: Is a slavery a lifestyle choice?
Forceme Silverspar: Is slavery when we have no choice but to say "yes Master".
Forceme Silverspar: Yes, is the answer. Apparently, if ya wanna eat the same crumbs as everyone else.
Forceme Silverspar: Cut away the crap "I think... " stuff... dig and delve as to what being a slave means to them and it does typically come down to three things... plus a few variants.
Forceme Silverspar: But let me say what the three things are and then explain why I think BDSM slaves do not exist, and so the whole sub/slave debate is somethings dreamt up by bored discussion facilitators.
Forceme Silverspar: I will be using extremes in my examples, only because they help make my points clearer, quicker.
Forceme Silverspar: But if you are able to... please don't just view my argument on the basis of the examples I give...
Forceme Silverspar: ...but rather take on board the bigger picture of what I am trying to get across with regard to diluting down my extreme examples to what one might find in every day BDSM life, whatever that might be, eh?
Forceme Silverspar: 1. A slave does not have limits
Forceme Silverspar: I know my regulars here might be shocked at what I am about to reveal...
Forceme Silverspar: ...considering my very vocal view of "no limit slaves"
Forceme Silverspar: After Master being my master for a year, and after 2 years of knowing him, we entered a discussion about TPE.
Forceme Silverspar: TPE = Total Power Exchange.
Forceme Silverspar: We have kept that very private until now.
Forceme Silverspar: That is to say, we agreed that I was handing over all my control to Master.
Forceme Silverspar: When I say all... I really do mean all.
Forceme Silverspar: Anything he chooses to have control over, he does. FL or SL... it is in his hands.
Forceme Silverspar: I am officially, "A no limit slave".
Forceme Silverspar: But what does this actually mean?
Forceme Silverspar: It doesn't mean that all the things I wouldn't do before have flown out of the window and I would now with a happy and flighty heart do all the depraved things I was saying no to before.
Forceme Silverspar: But it means that I have given him authority to control my limits.
Forceme Silverspar: What is this about? It is about trust.
Forceme Silverspar: I trust my Master that he will handle my limits with care and consideration.
Forceme Silverspar: I have really truly honestly never met a no limits slave.
Forceme Silverspar: And believe you me, I have looked.
Forceme Silverspar: So when all a stranger ie me, has to do to a no limit slave is to ask a simple question and they tell me they won't do that for anyone...
Forceme Silverspar: ...it blows out of the window their title of no limit and discredits their own given title. How can you be a no limit slave with limits?
Forceme Silverspar: Test it yourself... don't allow any ifs or buts or crap about "My master wouldn't ask me to do anything bad"...
Forceme Silverspar: ...the next no limit slave you come across, ask them if they would kill their children if given that order.
Forceme Silverspar: And if they say yes, call the police, don't pat them on the back and say, "Good girl, slave".
Forceme Silverspar: So whilst I am in a TPE relationship with Master... I have no control over my limits...
Forceme Silverspar: I do have the right to say "no" which leads me to my second point...
Forceme Silverspar: Show me a slave who doesn't have "I will not murder my children" on their limits list.
Forceme Silverspar: 2. A slave cannot say no.
Forceme Silverspar: Whilst it is accepted that submissives go around with their limits list under their first arm and a "No/Yes Master" sign under their other, slaves have neither.
Forceme Silverspar: Well hell.
Forceme Silverspar: Now this scares the shit out of me and explains why I am convinced BDSM slaves do not exist.
Forceme Silverspar: And at this point, I wanna paste in a URL.
Forceme Silverspar: Those of you who have been following my blog for a while, might remember the post I did about this recording.
Forceme Silverspar: It is a recording of Jim Jones' last-ish 45 minutes.
Forceme Silverspar: I have spent years researching this event.
Forceme Silverspar: http://www.rickross.com/reference/jonestown/death_tape.mp3
Forceme Silverspar: In it we hear the screams and wails of the dying babies and children and the cries of the parents.
Forceme Silverspar: I think beyond my time with my three Masters, this tape has been the biggest influence on my BDSM development.
Forceme Silverspar: Why?
Forceme Silverspar: Because it addresses what I believe to be the core of BDSM and that is of CONSENT.
Forceme Silverspar: What is BDSM if it is not consensual?
Forceme Silverspar: Consent features a lot in my teaching, my blog, the way I am with other people and I tend to fight most of my battles because I believe consent has been forced, misrepresented, cheated, or just plain uninformed.
Forceme Silverspar: This tape is evidence of how consent is freely given and can still be abused.
Forceme Silverspar: Jim Jones had consent.
Forceme Silverspar: These parents were indeed consenting to killing their children and felt they had no choice.
Forceme Silverspar: They couldn't and didn't say no.
Forceme Silverspar: Bringing the idea back to BDSM slavery, if a slave cannot state categorically to me that in some circumstances, she will say no, such as following the order to kill her children, then she is opening herself up to to me offering the rubbish bin for her to throw her slave tag in.
Forceme Silverspar: Show me a BDSM slave who would agree to murdering her children because she simply cannot say no.
Forceme Silverspar: And the third point is an product of the first two points....
Forceme Silverspar: If a slave has no limits and if a slave can't say no, then what she is saying is that she has a higher degree of submission than what a submissive has because a submissive does have limits and can say no.
Forceme Silverspar: 3. A slave is more submissive than a submissive is.
Forceme Silverspar: I have quite developed over the four years I have been in this business.
Forceme Silverspar: My old friends will remember me following Master No1's protocols which were to kneel to every dominant.
Forceme Silverspar: Anyone remember me teaching this... remember this quote? "Who am I to not acknowledge and respect a dom's position? So I kneel to them in respect of their position"
Forceme Silverspar blushes as she remembers that.
Forceme Silverspar: Let me tell you what pisses me off about these so called slaves who crawl around on the floor, spew out their "I am a slave Miss," and who think that because they have chosen a slave title, that makes them more submissive than someone who calls themselves a submissive.
Forceme Silverspar: A D/s relationship is a private affair between two (Or more) people.
Forceme Silverspar: Without a D there is no s. Without an s there is no D.
Forceme Silverspar: No one, I repeat no one, has any idea how submissive I am.
Forceme Silverspar: The nearest person to that knowledge is Master.
Forceme Silverspar: No one has my heart, no one feels the ache, the pull, the commitment, the trust, the pleasure, the indescribable need I have to submit.
Forceme Silverspar: No one tastes my salty tears of release and relief that dribble in my mouth as Master allows me to submit to him. It is true...
Forceme Silverspar: Most of the time I am with him, I am crying.
Forceme Silverspar: I repeat, no one knows. No one knows what goes on between Master and I.
Forceme Silverspar: Master picked up my sub vibes on his dom radar the first time he met me, more or less four years ago today.
Forceme Silverspar: So if that knowledge is unknown, how can comparisons be made?
Forceme Silverspar: How can a slave tell me she is more submissive than I am because she decides to call herself a slave, because she has no limits (Let me test that) and because she can't say no (Let me test that).
Forceme Silverspar: So im summary then...
Forceme Silverspar: BDSM slaves do not exist because when it comes down to the real hard truths and facts, without the airy fairy of stuff like consent and trust...
Forceme Silverspar: I have yet to meet someone who truly has no limits, and who truly won't say ever no and truly can't make a judgment on how submissive I am to state that they are more submissive than me.
Forceme Silverspar: When I do come across people, who really do have no limits and won't say no, and are so submissive they will carry out any command, then I am looking at the prison population or those in mental institutions.
Forceme Silverspar: Roleplay being a BDSM slave if ya like, roleplay til the cows come home...
Forceme Silverspar: But roleplay it is.
Forceme Silverspar: Let's not get confused about the real and true reality about being under the hand of someone carrying the no limits and can't say no boards in their hands and just consider what paths this can (and does) lead on down to.
Forceme Silverspar: That's it! Thank you for listening and I will happily take any questions or comments, now.

Get that tongue moving, girl!

2011-10-18T12:10:00.002+01:00

I think someone has been slippin' me some shiittake in me tea; it's been a giggle week this week.

Was pony girl day yesterday at BP (I am thinking of initiating some sorta BDSM/fetish global calendar to celebrate a weekly 'World SOMETHING day' - dunno, it's one of me projects) and Ember and I were prancing about as ponygirls. Ember being the much better pony than I would ever hope to be is a good little pony girl and never ever talks when she has her bit in her mouth. Me? Well, I ain't such a good ponygirl, never really have been and I talk no end when I got a bit in my mouth.

Local chat:
Forceme Silverspar: Gawwd I hope Master ain't gone for hours and hours I can't touch anything with these cuffs.
****: that is a pitty
Forceme Silverspar: Yeah, guess it keeps me hands off the men hahahaha
Ember Adored looks quizzically at the talking pony
Ember Adored snorts
Forceme Silverspar kicks
Forceme Silverspar: Shall I ram **** in the witch's brew?
Ember Adored shakes her head
Forceme Silverspar: I bet she is dying to get wet.
Forceme Silverspar: Ain't ya ****?
****: I heard that
Ember Adored: ((i wanna learn how to have a bit in me mouth and talk!!!))
Forceme Silverspar grins evilly.
Forceme Silverspar: I have clever mouth and tongue, see?
Ember Adored kicks at her friend
Forceme Silverspar: I can wrap it round me bit and still talk!
Forceme Silverspar laughs, You're only jelus!
Resident: put that talent on a resume?
Ember Adored write in her head.. talent.. big gob
Ember Adored snorts
****: those ponies are a little bit crazy
Ember Adored waves a hoof at ****
Ember Adored tosses her head
Forceme Silverspar chuckles haughtily.
Resident: untrained and unsupervised
Forceme Silverspar: Go on try it Emberssss, get ya tongue out and curl it up and down and such like...
Forceme Silverspar: You'll soon get the hang of it, I promise!
Ember Adored lifts her tail and deposits a steaming pile for her Owner
Resident: training part we can take care of
Resident: mhmm
Forceme Silverspar: Before ya know it, you'll be singing Hallelujah!

IM
Forceme Silverspar: [Family member] just asked what I was laffing at!
Forceme Silverspar: Funny :)
Ember Adored: ???
Ember Adored: oh
Ember Adored: what was funny?
"What was funny?" made me scream even harder and made it even more difficult to explain why I roaring!
Forceme Silverspar: tears rolling down face.
Ember Adored: geez
Ember Adored: nutter

What happens when a dom becomes revengeful

2011-10-16T19:59:00.001+01:00

It started with a group chat in an open enrolment group for a BDSM club of over 1000 members...

Resident: Word of warning to any and all Doms if approached by [Full SL name] walk away she claims to be a submissive but refuses orders and tries to give them....
Forceme Silverspar roars laffin.

I have deleted the many other group member comments as they are irrelevant to this post. Just left mine and fella's messages to read.

Resident: Yes not biggie banishment is easy
Resident: lol she refused her punishment and told me what to do lmao
Resident: try at your own risk lol Im not into switches
Forceme Silverspar recovers a bit, No tell me, *****, are ya being serious there?
Resident: yes she begged for my collar then refused my commands and doesnt use RLV
Forceme Silverspar: God, you made my day *****, thanks for the laff.
Resident: Glad to help
Resident: Glad I have good girls. True ******
Resident: I did mute her lol but Im not letting her monopolize my time
Resident: I have others that need my attention
Forceme Silverspar: What kinda dom goes into a chat group and tells everyone to keep away from a sub who doesn't follow his orders?
Resident: lol I wasnt telling anyone what to do but my own sub you can disreguard the advice or take it just not worth playing with a fake in my opinion
Forceme Silverspar: You calling her fake because she doens't follow your order? Ever considered she doesn't wanna follow an arsehat's orders?
Forceme Silverspar: And naming this sub is group chat is a very arsehat thing to do.
Resident: Good day/night/evening lol Forceme you sound like the arsehat, I warned her of my intentions I gotta go
Forceme Silverspar: So you use threats, wonderful example of dom behaviour, NOT.
Resident: Wasnt a threat
Resident: Oh Im not arguing with a child or explaining myself to anyone good bye
Resident: Sure thing ***

And that was that. I thought I was being polite by calling him an arsehat. I felt like calling him much worse.

But that wasn't that, the fella came into my IMs. Forceme Silverspar sighs, Here we go...

Resident: Very arsehat indeed calling me out when trying to spare others of a false sub. You dont know what I had her do, I even doubt your heart by your actions
Resident: I feel sorry for those who take your classes to learn BDSM, do you teach them to act on their own and refuse punishment?
Forceme Silverspar: I teach them how to recognise arsehats and will be using your words as one of my examples.
Resident: I was trying to be helpful I didnt realize.....
Resident: You are disrespectful and rude so dont go pointing fingers
Resident: Have a nice day, but in the future maybe you should get to know someone before judging them... maybe youd like to speak to one of my subs and see how poor a master I am....

Can I be bothered with this? Awww go on then...

Forceme Silverspar: I have judged you perfectly well on your actions and calling out to a group *in public* that a submissive is not submissive because she didn't follow your order makes me judge you as an arsehat of the mega-big kind. Byeeeeeeee.
Resident: Thats mean and rude... you dont know me and Im not an arsehat as you say... Im not exactly an expert I still have things to learn... I was only trying to warn of a fake... and I didnt ask her to do anything unreasonable... I apologize if I came off as an asshole... your words hurt even if you dont understand... good bye

So my (a complete stranger) words hurt him yet his public in group IM words about his ex-sub, calling her 'fake' & 'false', has no hurt value towards the sub? Ok, I got ya measure, me old fella.

Forceme Silverspar: Then apologize in group chat for doing what you did and apologize to the sub herself. Then, I might view your actions of someone who is just ignorant rather than someone who is an ignorant arsehat.
Resident: Its hard enough on me... I removed the group to avoid using it again so dont worry...

Hard enough on him? He lights a fire and then whines when it gets hot? Bawwww-hawww.

Forceme Silverspar: Recognise ya made a mistake, good doms do that, ya know. Recognise ya did a mistake and make amends.
Resident: I admit my mistakes when i see them, and maybe I shouldnt have done what I did, but I did tel her Id pread her name so she couldnt do that to others... I only been in the lifestyle for about a month and she was my first failed D/s relationship... Im probably at fault for giving her too much freedom to start with
Forceme Silverspar: I am just agape at ya words. What kind of dom would 1) Treat a sub in such a manner as to tell her he was gonna 'spread her name' as a punishment and 2) Actually do it.
Resident: an unexperienced one and it wasnt punishment... I told her after I let her go I was going to let others know she was a pretender

So now she is false, a fake and a pretender. Still he continues to bad mouth her. First rule of a failed D/s relationship; Take the good bits with ya and forget the bad bits and keep ya 'ucking gob shut.

Forceme Silverspar: Buy why?
Resident: Not to shun her but to spare others from thinking she was a serious slave
Forceme Silverspar: She thought you were an arse hat... I am not surpised she didn't follow your orders, that doesn't make her a pretender.
Forceme Silverspar: You a dom of one month thinks he is gonna get a serious slave?
Resident: Why do you keep calling me that?
Forceme Silverspar: Do you think you a dom of one month has the experience? Skills? Knowledge? to have a slave?
Resident: I have one still and I think I do very well
Resident: Im not a collector and I know I collared her too early but Ill know better in the future
Forceme Silverspar: You need to say sorry to the girl for your despicable actions in group chat in trashing her name, you need to say sorry to the group members for having to witness such a dispicable act by one of its group members.
Resident: Ill apologize to group but the girl I will never do such a thing
Forceme Silverspar: Well that's half way, thank you.

Yeah, I meant it, he came half way. He didn't have to by any means.

Forceme Silverspar: Maybe in time, and experience you will see the damage you can indeed cause to that girl.
Resident: I know I need more experience but she went against me and then refused a temporary oder while I thought about her punishment as I didnt want to act while mad
Forceme Silverspar: As a dom, you must NEVER act when mad. Holy cow, that's first rule of being a dom. Now get saying sorry in the group, and let me get on with my day, please.
Resident: I cant find the group again now that I left and I was not acting when mad please understand that
Forceme Silverspar: Ok got ya, I misread that, sorry.
Forceme Silverspar: * **** ******** - the group name.
Resident: I serached that all I see is the night club but i dont think that is the same thing
Forceme Silverspar: There I invited you.
Resident: ty sorry if I offended you and Ill apologize to group too have a nice day :(
Forceme Silverspar: Byebye good day to you.

I thought that would be it. Nope, not yet.

Resident: Interesting profile btw and I changed my mind about the girl but I wont forgive her anytime soon
Forceme Silverspar: Do you have her limits list?
Resident: She gave no limits only said if I pushed one she would let me know
Forceme Silverspar: And you pushed one and she did let you know. Right?
Resident: Well I told her not to go to a certain sim until I could decide her punishment for joining it without permission she said no
Resident: I asserted myself and she said no but she was sorry she was too strong to listen

Since when does being strong have anything to do with listening skills? She listened perfectly well I am sure, and she just removed her consent. She even said 'Sorry' to him for goodness sake. That's not the actions of a fake or pretender, in my experience.

Forceme Silverspar: A submissive has the right to remove her consent at *ANY* time. She removed her consent for you to have authority over her. That doesn't make her fake, it makes her sensible and any submissive who did not remove her consent when she felt she was being put into a potentially harmful or just disagreeable position, is leaving herslef up to being a victim of D/s. A victim of a bully and an abuser. You are totally wrong with this, however and which ever way I look at it.
Forceme Silverspar: She apologized to you even!
Resident: She didnt want to leave me but I wouldnt have a rebelious slave

Arh... errr what planet is this man from? Gor I bet.

Forceme Silverspar: Fine! You want a lettuce leaf to dominate, but you did wrong by her, and you should apologise to her.
Resident: s slave shouldnt say no especially when its reasonable
Forceme Silverspar: Where did ya hear that from?
Forceme Silverspar: What fantasy book have you been reading or mythical film have you been watching?
Resident: Other slaves i have met, and she was being trained in Gorean ways

Yep, Gor-ville.

Forceme Silverspar: Arh figures.
Resident: not that I get off on gorean control
Forceme Silverspar: You call out a submissive as "fake" because she doesn't wanna be a mythical fantasy figure? Now come on... be serious.
Resident: No... honest
Forceme Silverspar: I know ya just starting out, but you sure do have a lot to learn.
Forceme Silverspar: Go play Star Trek, and leave the serious D/s business to those who understand consent.

Ya know this is prolly what pisses me off most about Gor. "Slaves shouldn't say no" Fine go ahead and play slaves and masters but don't think it is any more real than Mork & Mindy. Idiot.

Resident: Wow thats mean as fuck
Resident: I dont even like star trek
Resident: She joined a sim without permission I was mad and asked her not to visit it until I could decide what to do.... I dont think i was wrong... I was mad and wanted to clear my head before deciding anything.
Resident: Im trying to be polite and explain things to you but you keep being rude and disrespectful. Not a trait many subs/slaves have
Resident: at least not hat I have met

That's right, because all the subs and slaves he met have ruby red tendrils cascading down their petite shoulders as their smouldering, sultry, loveless eyes flicker and sparkle shyly over his supple, rock hard manly muscles making their pink petals of desire moisten and glisten before his hot blooded and hungry gaze.

Grow up fella. Ya dealing with real people here.

Resident: I know I have alot to learn but you shouldnt treat me like Im an idiot
Forceme Silverspar: You can't think I think you are not an idiot if you are expecting human women to act like characters in a book and then derail them in public when they don't? You are *still* defending your actions regarding the fact she said "no" to you.

Ya know, I wouldn't be quite so mouthy about this is this was a Gor group he did it in. Ya get the gist, all muck in together with sharing the roleplay but it wasn't and there was feeling of it being part of RP, it felt nasty and vindictive to someone who *had* submitted to him.

Resident: I know Gor and BDSM are totally separate
Resident: I just think she should have had enough respect to let me decide what to do before tell in me "No"
Forceme Silverspar: Yes, that's reasonable.
Resident: Im not a Gorean Master... Im a BDSM Dom I dont have the heart for Gor but I wanted her to learn
Resident: I wanted to broaden her experience
Resident: The sim I go to is very lax and not your typical Gorean world, I dont treat my kajira there like animals, but its good to experience new things
Forceme Silverspar: Gor is for actors, Gor is for men who have an automatic title of Master because they don't have the ability to earn the title of master by their dom skills. You find the young, weak doms being Gor masters. You don't have the heart to be a gor master but you expect your slave to act like a gor slave and derail her in public when she does not? See the inconsistency?

"Grunt grunt grunt - Me no Gor Master but me expect you to be Gor slave and me expect you to never say no to me - grunt grunt grunt"

Resident: She knew to ask me before making decisions
Resident: I derailed her for reasons I felt were justified at the time and I wont do it again... I was pissed and hurt.. we had an agreement and she broke it
Forceme Silverspar: She said no to you, you were angry and to get her back for her insolence, you derailed her.
Resident: No you really dont understand my intentions at all
Resident: I didnt do what I did to hurt her or punish her. I did what I did because I didnt want another to commit his time to her and have her do the same to them
Resident: I made a mistake and I apologized to you and the group and to her
Forceme Silverspar: You apologized to her now?
Resident: yes
Forceme Silverspar: Well good stuff!
Forceme Silverspar: Shall we move on?

YAY the end!

Resident: Im just hurt by your words. You make me feel my expectations are that of a child and that Im an unfit master

Awww not yet. "You make me feel..." Yeah interesting concept. I don't make anyone feel anything, people allow or don't allow feelings to happen to them. People own their own emotions. This "You make me feel..." is a form of manipulation.

Forceme Silverspar: At this time, yes, I think you are.
Forceme Silverspar: Unfit to be a master, that is.

Yeah, well I do think that.

Forceme Silverspar: You might not have meant to hurt her... but you could well have done untold damage to her by doing what you did.
Resident: I know one who would disagree with you but youre entitled to your opinions
Resident: How so?
Forceme Silverspar: See how hurt you are by my words?
Forceme Silverspar: [05:33] Resident: Im just hurt by your words.
Forceme Silverspar: And you don't know me.
Forceme Silverspar: And this is private.
Forceme Silverspar: How hurt do you think your words about your ex-slave *in public* calling her "fake" could make your slave?
Resident: I see... well odds are no one will ever meet her anyway. and I think she deserves to hurt but that is still wrong.

Forceme Silverspar blinks a bit as she gets down to the nitty-gritty with the fella.

Forceme Silverspar: Err yes, very wrong.
Forceme Silverspar: You think she deserves to be hurt because she said no to you?
Resident: More because she hurt me
Forceme Silverspar: Seriously? Ya need to be careful of what ya up to.
Forceme Silverspar: You appear to me to be dangerous with that attitude.

Yeah, I do think that also. I would be running away from this fella in ANY life but I would be sprinting away like starving cheetah after its dinner if this fella came near me in any type of D/s context.

Resident: Im not dangerous and Im not one to normally act this was I was just very upset and hurt and part of me wants her to pay and repent but Im not used to getting the happy ending
Forceme Silverspar: You're the type that hits ya wife because she made ya mad.
Forceme Silverspar: And thinks that's OK.
Resident: It was a stupid mistake... I collared her too soon and I never hit a woman cuz Im mad....
Forceme Silverspar: But you do hit women right?

I felt it in my bones.

Resident: Im fucking insulted youd say that... I would like to kill woman beaters...
Forceme Silverspar: Don't believe it.

I didn't believe it.

Resident: I have once in my life hit a woman and the twat had me by the hair kicking me in the face

See, I said I didn't believe it.

Forceme Silverspar nods. Yep she deserved it right?
Resident: I hit her once and walked away
Resident: I would have liked to beat her stupid but I dont do that shit
Resident: I was raised better than that
Resident: afk you really just pissed me off

5 mins later...

Resident: I dont believe in hitting a woman except in self defense... you have insulted and offended me on a very deep and personal level

Dee-dums. Baby-boy, cry baby. Gonna hurt me now I upset you?

Resident: I thank you for making my day worse and I didnt think it possible... forgive me for thinking for a moment you were someone I could be friends with

This fella puts his age in his profile, he is a young 'un and displays to me dangerous behaviour that he doesn't have control over. He hits out purposefully to hurt submissives because submissives hurt him. She hurt him because she removed her consent. It's all her fault. It is my fault I made his day worse. Yes I do believe someone who behaves like this towards a submissive has no business owning a submissive.

Prolly too young to be properly married and be a full time wife-beater yet, but mark my words. When he beats his wife up because she makes him angry or upsets him for any reason, it will be her fault too.

Grunt-R-Us

2011-10-15T00:05:00.001+01:00

So I am in a small-ish, local-ish shop in FL, bending over looking at something in particular on a low down shelf. A few seconds into my inspection of the product, a hear a voice behind me from the direction of the counter.

"Are you OK, Angel?"

I felt like The Incredible Hulk. And it was like, in slo-mo.

First I blinked as I registered the name, my mind stuttered if there was such a thing possible, I stood up and turned around to see some spotty 17 year old with some disgusting bum-fluff covering his chin looking at me and grinning like a moron.

"Are you talking to me?" I replied.

He stared back and smirked. "Err, yes."

"I can't believe you called me 'Angel'."

He chuckled uncomfortably as did someone else in the shop.

My immediate thought was how disrespectful it was for this 17 year old grunt to be calling a middle aged woman "Angel" as if I was his 16 year old girlfriend. This over-familiarity towards customers is totally inappropriate for the service industry. My mind flashed up the word "disrespectful" but then I winced at the hundreds of times in SL people call me something I don't like, ('Miss' being the main one) yet believe they have the right to follow their own protocols and I have no right to impose mine and demand a respectful reference, eh!

I bent down to reinspect what I was looking at but was so incensed, I stood back up, faced the grunt, smiled and said...

"Actually, because you called me 'Angel', I will walk out of this shop empty handed"

I left him staring at me.

I wouldn't have done that before my time in SL.

Selling Green Dots in Second Life

2011-10-14T01:36:00.000+01:00

Last week I answered a call in one of the groups I am in for helpers for a planned joint activity run by University of Western Australia and the University of Applied Sciences Western Switzerland called "Selling Green Dots in Second Life" that was gonna happen in the future. Sounds fun!

On designated day, I went 30 mins early just to make sure I was in right place and whatnot and listened to 30 mins of chaos.

I have no idea what preps either university had done with the people to get ready for this event, but it was a fairly complicated activity that included knowing a confident level of SL skills to complete. A lot got stuck at knowing how to sit on a chair. Uh-oh.

60 people has designated roles within the activity, plus people involved in running the activity who were not actually taking part in it. Hmm lag-mo-tron.

I found out during the 5 mins voice briefing (I didn't see many others have dots showing), when people were still trying to learn how turn the music off coz they couldn't hear the voice, still trying to open a notecard because they didn't know how to open notecards, that we were all in groups and we had to work with our group to find stuff (what stuff?) but not communicate with our group (what group?), that we should touch this thing (what thing?) that went with our role (what role?) and find it in our inventories and follow the info and use the TP point over there (where?) and things we weren't suppose to touch won't let us because we are not in right group. Errrrr what? As it happened, I kinda got the gist of what she meant, but only just.

Major error, just one of them, was that there was no distinction made between TEAMS of four people and the bigger group of people that had the same role within each little group ie There were 12 people in all with my role of "Dublin Market and SL Expert", there was one of us 'Dublin Market and SL experts' in each team. They were all just called "Groups" and as the point of the exercise was for each role (not defined other than group tag) to only do certain jobs within the team (not identified), when she said certain groups can only touch certain things, being able to sit down seemed quite an accomplishment.

Those of us who asked got a notecard that told showed who was in what group and in what role. This was next to my name...

Forceme Silverspar 8 3

Errr OK.

So I left the chaos, I went and did what I half guessed I was supposed to do and didn't do very well in finding the things I should have. Time was ticking by... we were supposed to meet up with our team after one and quarter hours, share our information, discuss the case and propose solution. Errrr OK, again. It was a hunt... purpose is you may or may not find all the information yet we were also suppose to confirm we had all the information that went for our role?

Anyway, where were supposed to meet our little team, that is if our little team logged in, was at briefing and did the work. I asked in my role group's chat.

Forceme Silverspar: Where are we supposed to meet our group?

Staff: arrange with the other members

One of 60a: there is not enough information on exactly what we are supposed to do

Forceme Silverspar: What like IM each one and find out?

One of 60b: i do not know who is my other memnbers lol

Forceme Silverspar: On the notecard, you got everyone's name and their group.

Forceme Silverspar: I guess we are supposed to IM them and sort out where we gonna meet... does the organisation provide places for us to meet?

One of 60b: I have to go feed my family - sorry I cant do anymore today

One of 60a:bye ---- *hug*

Staff: eah bye *** ;) ty for your help

Forceme Silverspar: Organisers? Is that right? We supposed to IM our members to find out where we meeting?

Staff: for any missing info ask ****

At which point, now 1 hour 45 mins later... I quit.

Forceme Silverspar: I am giving up, sorry. Just not enough organisation and information here for me to be of any use. Good luck everyone.

Main staff woman then came into my IM.

Staff: wat problem do you have, Forceme?

Errr... Now where doooooooooooooo I start answering that one?!?! Behave Forceme.

Forceme Silverspar: Well, where do you want me to start? No idea where we are meant to meet.

Forceme Silverspar: No idea of the context of the experiment...

Forceme Silverspar: Not enough clear instructions as to what we are supposed to do.

Forceme Silverspar: It seems this is a test in teamwork, yet you make no effort to create a team.

Forceme Silverspar: No idea of what our roles are within that team.

Forceme Silverspar: How can I collaborate with team members - AFTER- my work has been done?

Forceme Silverspar: We shoudl have met up in our little teams - and be told to arrange where we meeting afterwards.

I got no reply.

I think actually that this was a very very good activity is proving that the best asset any company has is its staff. From what I saw and experienced of the hunt itself, the textures, the way it was scripted, it was really excellently put together. What let this whole thing down was people management, in this case, a complete lack of. I hope the universities use today as a big learning exercise and repeat the whole thing because it would be a shame to not put to use the stuff that was created for it.

I have offered my time to do it again, should they do so.

ROPE at Glint/DD/RPG

2011-10-11T12:46:00.000+01:00

I want to address the issue at ROPE at Glint.

There are four issues that my conversation with Ulric has prompted me to comment on.

1. Ulric lying to me as to the reason why ROPE was no longer wanted at Glint

2. The real reason why ROPE was canceled at Glint

3. The usurpation of the decision to not have ROPE by Ulric by the acquiescence of Tanith.

4. The inability of Tanith to deal with matters in a responsible way.

1. Ulric came to me yesterday and told me that Glint no longer wanted ROPE because Glint wants to stick to "home grown material". This was lie No 1. To think to lie is OK and to think I am so stupid as to think I would believe that lie shows me exactly the tenants of Ulric's character. It was idiotic of him to think that 2 days after final ROPE arrangements were made between BB and Tanith (Sim Owner), suddenly Glint was in mid flow of doing its own RP classes. The IM was full of apologies and niceties but with the blatant and obvious lie in there, I believed none of it. Lie No 2 was that the staff were now "clamoring" to teach RP themselves, so ROPE was no longer needed. Ulric must think I wear a tu-tu skirt and have just dropped off the Christmas tree, really. Sim-owner Tanith wouldn't come to me to request ROPE on 30th September, spend time arranging ROPE for Glint and confirming final details with BB on 6th October when they have had 9 months to do the 'clamoring' and get doing the hard work and dedication of actually teaching instead of pissin' in the wind. Ulric lied to me in the hope my perceived stupidity would make me smile and nod. What happened with honest communication? Nah, let's all lie and make the world go round. When someone lies to me, it makes me more determined to know the truth.

2. The real reason why Glint wasn't having ROPE, as Ulric finally owned up to, was that he didn't like that I had "sent one of your people" to make final arrangements to have ROPE at Glint again.

I don't think I have ever heard anything so pompous, childish and supercilious in all my time in SL.

Last year, I appointed BB to be ROPE manager. I knew this extra responsibility was good for his experience, progression and growth. BB is not "one of my people", he is the ROPE manager. BB had loyally and with utter dedication delivered ROPE at Glint every week without fail including Christmas for nearly two years, representing the ROPE team. Ulric said that "When you started ROPE we helped you out in Glint" and now I was palming him off with "one of your people". I got to repeat it. This is just pompous, not to mention rude. Firstly, no, I was very successfully delivering ROPE for a year across the grid before it came to Glint, delivering it at CaRP HQ for example with a membership of 7000, at Bonanza with a membership of 3500 to name but two. And second, who exactly is "we", because in all our time at Glint, neither BB nor I saw Ulric raise so much as a little fat finger to help us deliver, access or support teaching or learning at our RP classes at Glint. In fact, support all round from this sim was always slim compared with the 38 other sims that have had ROPE.

3. I know none of the three main characters in this plot on any personal level. Ulric, Tanith or vala. But let me just take them as people and look at evidence of their actions. Ulric, who is a non-sim owner and has had no involvement in organising ROPE to be delivered at Glint unlike Tanith who is a sim owner, has taken it upon himself to open his mouth, stamp his foot, cry his tears to persuade Tanith to acquiesce to his decision to not have ROPE because I "Sent one of my people" to do the final arrangements. 'Acquiesce' was his word he used to describe Tanith's actions. Acquiesce means to give in, to roll over and play dead, to comply. This goes very well with my opinion of him that he is willing to use and abuse to get his own way and come out smelling of roses. Recognise this behaviour? I sure do. Seems to me that the two women bill-paying sim owners here been firmly put aside (Other sim owner, vala is away and is Ulric's submissive and has as far as I know had no involvement in ROPE being or not being delivered at Glint) while the big strong male non-bill payer strides in and bullies in his domineering fashion to put the little women in their place. Shame he doesn't have the cash to back up his baby-tantrum. Reminds me of the layabout dosser who scrounges his beer and fag money off his grandmother and then tells her what to cook him for dinner.

4. I feel bad about this one. Only because I know what it is like to be at the arse-end of a user and abuser. But, I stick to what I believe in, everyone is responsible for their own actions. Tanith was the one who came to me to request ROPE. Tanith was the one who made final arrangements with BB just days ago, Tanith was the one who hid behind Ulric's lacy petty-coats when it came to tell me her decisions and arrangements had been usurped by him, and Tanith, I believe, should have been the one coming to me to tell me the news. I am guessing she knew she wasn't a good a liar as Ulric is and didn't wanna face the consequence of her acquiescing to Ulric's pressure. Or Ulric demanded that he told me. Or Ulric offered to tell me. Or something else. I can't see any viewpoint that looks very good on her. Educate me.

[2011/10/10 11:21] Ulric Dalglish‧: And there's the point that initially raised my objection. When you started ROPE we helped you out in Glint. Now you've got it up and running you sent one of your people to deal with us. That's not the type of partnership we need. That prompted me to object to the planned course of action and persuade the owners that we retain independence

Equals

Pompous, rude, childish, arrogant, domineering, abusive and just plain opprobrious. Bet he is the same in FL.

Good luck with ya RP classes, Glint.

Shock! Horror!

2011-10-10T16:54:00.003+01:00

Forceme Silverspar does giggle!

No it is true. Honest. VERY occasionally I come across something that I do giggle about. I mean giggle as in, I leave the screen and do the washing up and start giggling to myself over something I have come across in SL.

I am doing some reorganising of the Freedom Continent outposts and decided to abandon all me little tiny plots and the much bigger plot so I could get just the one big plot over at PG land and make more of a go with the prims available. I went window shoppin' & hoppin' across the map to check out the prices and sizes quickly and came across a price tag that seemed reasonable to me. L$500 for a 512. I TPed to the spot and checked out the land and guess what... go on have a guess what this PG sim is called? Go on! Guess!

My new PG plot is on SHIITAKE! I giggled so much I had to buy the land no matter what. It was worth L$500 for the laugh.
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Update: Forceme Silverspar gets educated.

A few Shiitakes on offer, anyone wanna nibble?

Being touched

2011-10-09T12:11:00.002+01:00

One day a fella, Chris Serdyuk, who I had not spoken with before on a one-to-one level IMed me about something he had heard me say in one of my classes a time ago, and whilst it didn't make altogether much sense at the time, it rang a bell with him now. I've had have this happen to me on a number of occasions and it always brings me to a jolt.

It's like I rabbit away natter natter mouth natter mouth natter in class and most of the time I live in the present, it doesn't really occur to me that some people remember word for word what I have shared, sometimes years later. It's an odd feeling to be carried around in people's minds like that.

We got together at his place and chatted about this statement I made. Now whilst I have got a 22 inch screen where I rest my SL, my screen is never big enough to enjoy a lot of my SL unless my purpose at the time is to actually look at the environment. Typically, I have got so many windows and notecards open within SL I kinda go about as is I am swimming in a paper recycling plant.

At the end of our chat, he asked if I wanted paying or did I want one of his photos instead? Eh? Photos? There are photos? Well, I certainly didn't want paying. At which point I paid notice to the things behind all me windows. I realised then I had been stood in a gallery of his work. I panned around and was stunned at these photos. They were just beautiful. I narrowed the one I wanted down to 3 or 4, all four were skyscapes and I ended up with this one. It reminds me to know that there is a God. Somewhere, something. It can't just all be either waves or matter, can it?

Touch for larger version

He sent me a link to the exact place that this photo is from but I won't share that here, he can if he wants to, but I will say the location is Vancouver Island, Canada. I have had this photo plonked right where I rez up when I TP home, and every time I TP home, I get touched by it, somehow. Thank you, Chris.

Octoberville 2011: Complete!

2011-10-07T00:54:00.000+01:00

Nearly 6 days later, I have finished Octoberville 2011 in 31st place! Woohoo! I spent the last 2 days getting my last few items and by my last 3, I was practically thumping me head on the desk. If ya experienced this event, you will know what I mean!

Anyhow, great fun, and oh sooooo well made and managed. Perfect 6 days that Master allowed me to go off and do. Now I am all done and can return to eating, washing and sleeping and stuff like that!

More basket-cases

2011-10-06T11:04:00.004+01:00

Now I know I got enemies and I got enemies because I piss some people off. These enemies have applied a variety of tactics to try and attack me, tactics which have suited the person right down to the ground. When I piss someone off, I can usually have a good stab at how they gonna react to that and more than often, I am spot on.

When I found my spurious copy-cat profile, I knew who it was. When 'Bella' decided to write its let's-all-do-some-Forceme-bashing-for-shitz-and-giggles blog, I knew who it was. Soooo when something came my way and I had not a single clue as to who what where or why, I couldn't help but backtrack in my mind the last 2 weeks and figure out who I had pissed off because I have been fairly quiet for a couple of months now and this just came outta the blue.

What I found particularly interesting with this attack is the person just had no clue who I was or what I think or how I am. If ya have an enemy then there has to be some understanding of the person in order to attack the right way to be effective. Or at least attempt to be effective.

So... it started out with an IM from me Master. My Master has two avies which he uses interchangeably and he logged into the other for the first time in over a week. When he logged in, he picked up a message which was 10 days old. It went like this...

[2011/10/05 08:58] Cunja Lefavre: [08:40] **** *******: (Saved Sat Sep 24 11:15:59 2011) is that normal that your slave is giving lessons to guys wich is not hers ? to fuck them in her Im and being your slave on kneels? if not you should really better care of your slave they way she flirting with guys with she not owns.... so shit .

Forceme Silverspar blinks. If only! If only! If only I could flirt I think I would be a happier person! And as for 'ucking someone else in IMs, errr yeah right.

Master told me to ignore the matter... "save your energy for something I give a shit about." Forceme Silverspar sighs out happily. Ain't I lucky to have such a wonderful sensible Master? "Yes Master" OK, I yes-mastered which is usually a bad sign for me, but I did have full intention of dropping it and not identifying the slimy 'hit-'ucker was who had tried to cause harm between Master and I.

I did not recognise the IM's author's name at all. I checked its groups, I saw no link to me. It had to be something to do with my teaching, was there a strange person in one of my classes? A new name that didn't behave as normal or fit in to class or what what what? I just couldn't think who would do such a thing, who would say such a thing and who obviously had no clue about me yet was so spiteful and vengeful towards me. I did actively drop it as Master told me to, but me mind whizzed, ya know. Who who who who? And err why? What had I done to this person that warranted this action.

Then, but utter fluke, I got an IM. It was from a fella who had a private consultation with me asking for another one to be set up. As soon as I got this IM, the penny dropped and I sighed out contentedly that I knew who the 'ucking-men-in-IM message was from and as to why? That's simple. Because they are a complete basket case.

10 days ago when I was in consultation with the dom fella, he stopped the session a few secs and asked if I minded that he TPed his woman in. Well of course I dont' mind, eh? His time, his money. And in she TP'ed. In local chat, I said hello and welcomed her. There was no reply and she TP'ed out. Well whatever. She then TP'ed back in and the same thing happened. I hear from the fella that she ain't happy, she is thinking we are doing nooky. Now I know that if ya check out two dots side by side on the map in the middle of emptiness, and one of those dots is ya man and the other dot is a woman, it can feel a bit ewwy but ya know, have some decorum about it eh, count to 10 and breeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeathe til ya get ya senses back? She was pissed with me. She sent me this IM.

[2011/09/24 09:05] **** *******: WHAT IS THAT FOR A FUCKING CHEATING TO TAKE MONEY JUST TO EXPLAIN SOMEBODY SOMETHING

Errr which I ignored coz one thing ya don't wanna do is try and reason with a basket-case who is jealous. And yeah, **** *******, people pay me so I explain things to them, it's called work.

Now hand on heart... I still did not link the IM from Master's inbox with this woman's name although I thought it was the same person. Primarily because Master thought it was a man because the name is manly and I just followed Master's thought. I thought this woman had used a male alt to send the message to Master.

When things started to click together and as the fella was in my IM box what with arranging time for next consultation, I asked him if **** ******* was his jealous woman from the week before... he replied that it was. YAY, I was right I got the right person!

Forceme Silverspar: Then it would explain a rather idiotic and idiot IM **** sent to my Master about teaching doms and fucking his in IM behind my master's back.
Forceme Silverspar: Good job my master recognises a moron when he sees one. Thanks for time.
Resident: she send a message to your master?
Resident: damn.. what a complication
Forceme Silverspar: **** did yes, and you saying it's her then yes she did. No not complication, he doens't take any notice of idiots and she is a prize no 1 idiot. Must go.. byeeeeeeeeeeee.
Resident: i am speechless
Resident: whetever sorry i tell you or your master isnt enogh
Resident: damn

At which point la-la lady Prize-Idiot No1 comes into my IM...

**** *******: why you telling shit behind my back
**** *******:  are you crazy or what
Forceme Silverspar: And dont' forget ya medication coz ya sure need some. Byebyeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee sweetheart.
**** *******:  i report you for that shit
Forceme Silverspar: Go for it.
**** *******:  yes you asshole think you can break my relationship
**** *******:  crazy insane you are

Back to the fella now...

Forceme Silverspar: She needs SERIOUS MEDICATION - I am blogging about the mental people we have in SL and she is one of them. You will read her text there. I don't feel it is suitable for us carry on our class, not when you have a mental case on your elbow.
Resident: hm
Resident: well i am sad things turned out this way

I didn't think it was right to carry on with out sessions, I don't wanna be at the arse-end of shit like this and for L$2000 an hour it sure ain't worth it.

Then about 4 hours later, fella dissolves friendship with me. She sure has got him screwed down tightly under her skirts, I thought. I IMed the fella.

Forceme Silverspar quirks.
Resident: ?
Forceme Silverspar: What ya dissolved friends for?
Resident: because the situation will get out of controll if i will not
Forceme Silverspar: Hahahah she told you to?
Resident: and, i dont want to mess up situations or people
Resident: hah, no some things i still have brains to understand them

Nope, don't believe that for one second. It's been negotiated that friendship with me is broken.
Forceme Silverspar: So how is dissolving friendship with me gonna keep things in control?
Resident: well, i will not find my self in the middle of some unwanted war, not meant by me. i can believe both parts, but in the end the key for all this shitty situation is me
Forceme Silverspar: What don't you believe that I am saying?
Resident: i believe both
Resident: and you and ****
Forceme Silverspar: You can't..
Resident: so.. the solution is one
Forceme Silverspar: She told my master you and I were having sex.
Resident: bring here your master and i will confirm him we were not
Resident: or i come there and tell so
Forceme Silverspar: My master doesn't need a confirmation of that. My point is your la-la lady IMed my master and told him that. What kind of mental basket case does that?
Resident: one in love?
Forceme Silverspar: Are you seriously accepting that?
Forceme Silverspar: You are prepared to be with someone who is so willing to do her best to inflict pain and harm on innocent people?
Forceme Silverspar: Good luck to ya.
Forceme Silverspar: Byebye.
Resident: no i am not. but never said i aknoledge this point of view
Resident: i am risking to find out
Resident: the same to you

Yeah... I mean, she, is la-la with jealousy but what I just don't get is that this fella who seemed to me nice and ordinary was willing to accept love from and be with, someone who would do such a thing to innocent people. I have two things go through my mind. Either he told her we were having sex in IM (Which is a weak solution because I don't much believe that) and he was trying to now put oil on the water or he is soooo desperate to have someone who will love him and will sacrifice all and everything to keep that love. I am betting on the second solution. Pfft.

I know how much Master loves me, how much BB loves me, but there is no way on this earth that I would tolerate that kind of wicked and malcontent behaviour from either of them. I would rather walk off a short plank into a deep blue cool sea.

The egg has hatched!

2011-10-05T00:28:00.000+01:00

Dunno how or why but... improvement!

I did say I would be grateful if I was just Ruth. I am, oh I am! It's odd... I see me like that and BB sees me this...

Which means...

I can run around OV absolutely naked... It's a bizarre feeling.

Gahhh, what a n00b problem!

2011-10-03T21:15:00.003+01:00

The times I have heard people moan about themselves rezzing up as a cloud must outweigh the number of hot dinners I have had. I say it's a n00b problem, because living in SL a few months, one soon learns how to get out of this misty mess but what the hell...

Octoberville school house

Octoberville store

Octoberville Sheriff's office

Octoberville Church

For hours and hours, maybe like 12 now... I have been this cloud and it is drivin' me insane. This is what I have tried; all my known methods of getting outta it. What am I missing?

New hair base
Advanced--->Character--->Character Tests--->Test Male/Female
Relogged
Rebooted PC
Rebooted router
Changed Viewers
Cleared Cache- both inworld and on me PC
Sat on things
Changed Groups
Got someone to log in on my account
Rebaked

STILL, I am a c-l-o-u-d!

Me turned particles off, me an e-g-g now!

That's two weeks out of me life, gone!

2011-10-02T01:34:00.000+01:00

Hmm yeah, talking about the future in the past tense. I'll end up at 42 if I am not careful.

October 1st denotes the start of Octoberville 2011. Well YAY for that, I only waited 2 years for it. I remember when I did it in 2009, I was glued to playing the game, oh I have such an addicitable (?) personality. If I grab hold of something I find it so hard to let go.

And so I spent 2 weeks in 2009 playing this game, I just know for sure it's going to happen again this time. I was sorely disappointed last year when they announced just before Octoberville 2010 was suppose to start that it was the same as 2009 but with a few minor changes coz they ain't had time to create it. I sulked for a week.

2pm was the opening time...

Damn damn damn...

LEMME IN!

Forceme Silverspar elbows everyone outta the way, Are ya listening to me?! LET ME IN!

Finally at... 42 mins later...

I got in! Played for about 30 mins...

Wiggling and dancing with 3 of OV's creators

... but I had to leave for a reason, but now, after trying to get back in for two hours... all I get is...

I doooooooooo wish Octoberville wasn't so popular, I mean really!

Byebye Strokerz

2011-10-01T02:58:00.001+01:00

I can't say I will miss this fella per se. Not had much to do with him, or his products; I ain't ever been one to relish hopping from ball to ball. But... I dunno, it seems a shame, yet another creator goes down the pan. If I listen to rumour, he's gone from plumber to millionaire selling his Sexgen stuff but no more.

All is left is his empty island...

Well nearly empty. I few cupcakes...

...and a full perms version of his millionaire creating product. I guess there will be no more L$6000 beds for sale.

Type in "Sexgen" into the map and go grab it yaself.

OpenCollar

2011-09-30T09:10:00.003+01:00

I like free, I really really do. There are lots of type of free: freedom, free speech, free advice, free beer. Even free things have a value, don't ya think? The OpenCollar Project was the bane of collar creator's lives a few years ago when it sprung in world offering it's BDSM lubbly-jubbly stuff for free.

I do appreciate the tons of hard word, effort, passion and commitment, not to mention money that's gone into providing the community with the free collars and stuff but... but... if I was to count up the hours, nawwww, count up the days and days that I have spent helping people to get to grips with it, I would be there a long time counting on me fingers and toes and then moving on to the toes of the community.

It's not that products themselves are crap although there are some holey bits. It's the documentation that comes with them that's crap. I thought about writing it myself it give out but never got that far. Maybe if I had spent my days doing that rather than helping individuals and couples, my help would have been more effective.

I dunno how long this info has been out but it's just crossed my desk recently... OC are quitting their remote stuff and online storage of data. Which is one of their main-stays, I think. Have a gleb at their notecard, made by nirea Resident for full details.

Hi all,

So people in OpenCollar Chatter seem pretty concerned about the changes coming in version 3.7 of the collar, particularly about the loss of the server side features. This note is to help answer questions that have come up more than once.

Q: What's happening?
A: OpenCollar is turning off the server components that support saving settings to an online DB and sim-to-sim remote control. We're still going to run the server components of the update/distribution system, however.

Q: What features are we losing because of the database switchoff?
A: Online storage of collar settings, and sim-to-sim remote control.

Q: Why?!
A: The OpenCollar server code runs on Google App Engine. We've had a pretty good run on App Engine, getting free hosting and having to do almost no system administration, and had very high uptime for an application that's under constant load. But Google is raising their prices and taking us out of the free quota range. At first we thought this would raise our hosting costs to around $200 USD/month, but Google subsequently adjusted their plans (see http://googleappengine.blogspot.com/2011/09/few-adjustments-to-app-engines-upcoming.html), which took the cost down quite a bit. With that and some tweaks of our own we're looking at around $30/month, though that will spike up when we release new versions.

Q: When is this happening?
A: The Google price changes are taking effect on Oct 31. We plan to put 3.7 into the auto update system at least a week before then. (You might have heard me say Oct. 1 before. I was misremembering. Thankfully. The real drop-dead date is Oct 31.)

Q: Why don't you just raise the money inworld?
A: This involves a lot of administration that just isn't practical right now given the number of people on the OC team and the amount of time they're able to commit.

Q: What will happen if I just keep using version 3.600?
A: When we put 3.7 in the update system you'll start getting nagged to upgrade. When we turn off the server components, you'll start seeing error messages.

Q: Can I just run a copy of the database on my own server for my own use?
A: Yes. BUT:
1 - You would need to set up your own instance of our code, (on Google App Engine or maybe Appscale http://code.google.com/p/appscale/), or fork it to run on your stack of choice.
2 - You would need to fork the LSL settings script to use your server.
3 - You would start with an empty database.

Q: Can I donate use of my server to run the main OC database?
A: Probably not. Both because our code is designed to run on App Engine (not your bog standard PHP server), and because we are extremely careful about who we entrust with our users' data.

Q: THIS IS THE END OF OPENCOLLAR!! AAAAAAAAHHHHHH!!!!
A: /me hands you a valium.

Q: Will the server features ever come back?
A: Maybe. If/when they do, it will only be if we can afford to pay for the hosting and have sysadmins in place to keep it running smoothly. This might mean charging a small fee for people who want the online features. We don't have the infrastructure or team for any of that right now, so don't plan on server features until there's more news.

Q: What's wrong with 3.701?
A: It has a bug where the settings script gets wedged on some rezzes. A 3.702 fix is in testing.

Q: How can I help support OpenCollar?
A: I'm glad you asked! Here are some ideas:
- Join the OpenCollar R&D group. When a beta gets sent there, test it out. If you file a bug on our tracker, IM Nirea about it.
- If you're a scripter, dive in and learn the collar's systems (auth, settings, menu hooks) and join in the current effort to make the collar's core simpler and better documented.
- If you're a designer, consider making something beautiful and useful that you can donate to the project. Those who have made particularly significant contributions are featured with their own section at the main OC temple.
- If you know how to read and write, ask Nirea how you can contribute to improving OpenCollar's documentation. Make that double if you have html, css, or web design skills.
- If you're a nice person, consider becoming an official OpenCollar Helper. Helpers hang out at the temple from time to time and answer questions.

One last thought: OpenCollar usually presents itself as a team project rather than any one person's efforts, but these days the team is looking pretty thin (1 active person, 3-4 less-active people) It's normal, and totally acceptable, for people to move on when their life situations or even just their interests change. But that means we need a steady stream of new people stepping up, and that's where you come in. If you have the means, and have the desire, this is your opportunity. OpenCollar only lives as long as its community sustains it.

Nirea

Hail to The Temple.

Virtual whores

2011-09-28T22:34:00.001+01:00

OK, so I may be sensitive to this issue... I have been on the arse-end on it twice in FL. Once so majorly, I am quite positive that I have been scarred forever with the experience.

Why can't people actually not lie and cheat and go shagging other people behind their backs? Why is the pull so easy to give into? Never mind the hurt and pain and upset doing this to someone else can and does cause, it matters not, so long as people are 'ucking away merrily, there seems this veil of laissez faire and woohoo sod the consequences, it's only SL.

This licentious behaviour seems to mill and snake around me feet like I am constantly standing a viper pit. What is it with people who have such low moral fibre, low resistance to corruptibility with no ability to ignore their concupiscence. I understand that SL affords people with the opportunity to roleplay being drug dealing, whiskey swilling, street whore when they are simply school librarians who wear twin sets and pearls in real life, but really... when ya dealing with other people's emotions, their real emotions, their real hard feelings or worth or esteem or indeed love, then it simply is not on.

That's right. It isn't on. It isn't on to go around in SL being blinkered and dismissing responsibility off with a wave of the hand saying "I can do what I like to who I like when I like and how I like because hey, it's not my fault Gov', it's just SL."

If ya a lying, cheating piece of shit who shags around behind ya partner's back, or shags people who you know have a partner in SL then ya very likely to be doing the same in first life, because if ya don't have any moral backbone in SL then funnily enough, it's hard to suddenly find it in FL.

Whores and manwhores who do this behaviour deserve each other. Congrats, may you all be happy together! But bloody well keep your scummy salacious behaviour away from me.

Bondage Playground under semi new management

2011-09-28T08:43:00.000+01:00

Bondage Playground, my long time home ex-home and place of deep emotions and and and and one that still pulls me strings, is under new management! Embers and her fella G2 have taken some of the lead on the changes and Gone! are the famous white volcano walls, and still there, the pink sky box with it's very very special orange glass cage.

Anyone remember Sarah Island's quest?! That was fun, someone really really really outta get something like that started again. It was damn special.

I am excited to see these changes at BP and look forward to it being the happy and vibrant space it used to be. Good kuck Embers ad G2! I'll be keeping strong eye on the progress ya making and don't forget to call upon me supervisor role Mhahahahaha!